Do you know how to relate authentically? No secrets here …………. it begins with YOU. The kind of relationship you have with yourself, will impact on other areas of your life. On your health, wealth, relationships, work and spirituality. For truly everything is within before it shows up without.
To create true and lasting change in one’s life and the world, the change starts with oneself. And I mean change as in stepping into or towards total, complete, all-encompassing, unconditional allowance and gratefulness for who we are, in all our complex, confusing, magnificence ….. NOW!
Awareness to what is going on, is the first step and then choosing. So what does this awareness look like and where can it be found? And once aware how can we create the change we desire ?
Whatever is going on in your life, your body, your relationships etc serves as a reflection and offers information as to what kind of vibrational frequency we are at. So, we can get information from these experiences. And from here choose consciously where we desire to travel next and what kind of an experience we are seeking to have.
Plus, there is a whole arena of vibrational frequencies that is just beyond our current level of perception. This is just how energy works. Like a radio station – you have to tune in to the exact frequency to catch the show and when you are in range you can tune in. All that static you can hear, is information that is on another frequency.
Sometimes it’s this static that draws us and that hold the new information we require to take the next step. However, how can we tune in to receive it. As Neale Donald Walsch wrote, “Your real life begins, beyond your comfort zones.”
So what’s it going take to first of all recognise those comfort zones, then know how to choose which are working for you or not, and then choose to focus on what does work?
Often we know we have to choose something different – the signs are all around – however we do not know how to. Choosing a mentor or facilitator is a great choice. I have been fortunate in my life to have received counsel and mentoring from some amazing people and the greatest gift I received was that of objectivity.
A blind spot is a specific vibrational frequency and so having a third person who is inspiring, uplifting and most importantly non-judgemental to guide me to recognising them and how to clear their electromagnetic imprint has been worth the blood, sweat and the tears – leaving space and infinite possibilities. It has given me the ability to be the Observer more and more in my life.
When we are able to stand in a place as the Observer, we are able to see all, without judgement. Meditation teaches us this – for me this is the lesson in the practice of the law of detached consciousness. It gives us the space and tools with which we can see the wood for the trees and opens up an infinite choice of possibility.
My personal journey has been one of learning to love myself 100% – the good, the bad and the ugly. I have and continue to embrace my darker side and to enjoy expanding with it more into my lighter sides. My criteria for choice today are ease and joy. Is this something you would like for you too?
What if you are the one you have been waiting for? And what if the waiting is now over? It is You and the time is NOW!
By the Light of the God I AM
I release all procrastination and indecisiveness
I acknowledge the power to create, the courage to believe
And the willingness to receive the abundance of the universe
I embrace the awareness to actualise my purpose
I release my childhood contract where I felt I had to save myself from myself and others
Now, as an enlightened being, I know that I cannot be all things to all people.
My greatest joy is living my authentic self
(Author Unknown)Trust this inspires you to know just how valuable you are. And please don’t allow the terminology used and that perhaps doesn’t resonate with you to be a distraction that keeps you once again from authentically relating with your true Essence.
Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Metaphysical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck in body, mind, emotion and soul and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists in creating new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.
The terrorist events back in 2015 in Paris shook many of us to the core and raised a new level of awareness around war and peace. It has shaken our sense of security, however flimsy that may actually be and awoken in us the fear that we are no longer safe. Whilst the recent incidents in Paris most certainly got the Western world’s attention, it has of course raised issues as well about all the other events of mass suffering that are going on and that get little media focus. It has also made the levels of fear skyrocket which is the motive of anyone who uses force and brutality. And for the most part it worked. Or did it?
In the moment perhaps, but there is something new being born, apparent on social networking and beyond the main medias reach. There is a movement of trust and love and a willingness to take accountability showing up. And so whilst many are indeed experiencing fear, which is a legitimate emotion, there also is an awareness that it is now time to make a choice. The new age is now today and I feel we are being shown quite clearly that the choices we make from this moment on, are of pivotal importance. It’s a matter of trust. More to the point however, is trust in who or what and can anything be trusted at all in these uncertain times?
I see a new thought field around love gathering momentum and thank goodness many more people appear to be responding with love rather than reacting in fear. And yet this upsurge of destructive action indicates that for many love is still an illusive state of being, despite this new unfolding of a very strong desire and demand to move away from violence as means of accomplishing anything of value and sustainable.
What is also in question here is, who is responsible? We blame society, but we are society. And so it really is time to stop and take a long hard look at our daily actions. For the most part, most people agree that all you need is love, as the Beatles sang. Yet what is visible in the external world and a reflected representation of the underlying inner and subconscious world, within us, is that there is not that much love. As more Light is brought in, the Shadows will also show up in stark contrast and this is what is occurring. I myself have desired to be more loving and yes loved and yet this simple desire on its own has not proven easy to attain. This, in spite of and despite my choosing to love more. Beginning with myself. It is in my journey of falling in love with myself again, that I uncovered what for me is the missing link, that will bind the intention to the behaviour and experience. A matter of trust!
In my exploration of my shadow-self, I uncovered a side to what is supposedly ‘love’ that is nasty, controlling, selfish, disempowering and terribly confusing. Listen to many of the love songs on the radio today and the message they give. Love always seems to be unrequited. What’s with that? There must be something missing! And whilst love does seem to be all we need, the current definition and implicit meanings within this noun and verb are creating terrible suffering and misguided information. The word ‘love’ has been so misused and abused that people find themselves running after this state often only to crash down with terrible disappointment and harm. How many times have you been told that it’s for your own good and because you are loved, when in fact it was just another step in applying a notion that belongs to someone else. Love is so tangled up in social and religious and cultural beliefs that it has been strangled almost to death. If love is truly to be what saves us, then it is in desperate need of an overhaul. Or we need a new way to access it’s potential.
Now don’t get me wrong. I believe very much in love and yes I am a romantic. However, I am no longer caught up in the entrainment that is behind the general definition and use of this word in so many cases. If love was as simple as that, then how come it is such a struggle for so many? In my experience, true love requires a safe place in which it can truly unfold and blossom. For love to sprout in our hearts and mind, requires vulnerability beyond the daily demands of the ego that is rooted in belief systems that do not always serve our personal values. For love to truly become visible in my daily experience, something that I could feel in every fibre of my being, I first had to choose to trust myself. Without trusting in me, my life lay around me in tatters and no matter how much I wanted to build something loving, the foundations were shaky and so always crumbled. Trust is the foundation on which love stands. Your trust for yourself, no one else. Trust is when you choose to follow your own inner voice no matter what, because it’s Knowing cannot be denied anymore.
So much of the misunderstanding around love I believe is because it is like a carrot that has been dangled in front of our noses for centuries. Yet it is seldom achievable by the masses. For me the missing link is a matter of trust. Without trust in yourself it is difficult to trust in life, because life will reflect back to you, all the places you distrust yourself and there is nowhere for love to plant its roots. To open your heart so wide that you are totally exposed and yet totally whole, takes trust. As long as self-trust is missing, true love will continue to slip through our fingers. Always just out of reach. Like learning to run before you can walk. Trust is about consciously choosing to know and continue to choose to know that you are always safe, that life is but a dream and that love is a many splendid thing. Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks.
Life has shown me that before I can truly embrace my Greatness, I have to trust in myself. And love, happiness, joy, well-being are all the fruits of this choice to listen to those whispers of my Heart’s Knowing. Trust for me is my connection to knowing that I too am a part of All That Is and that runs through everything. True Love is unconditional and flows through everything, yet trust is the key to receiving. When you are missing this key, it is difficult to receive because there is no trust. No trust in yourself, that you are Divine enough to know and significant enough to receive. Therefore true love continues to wait patiently and unconditionally until you do. It’s a matter of trust!
This is a vast and complex topic and of course you will have your own points of view. I just feel it is time to address what I see is going on. Not just for myself but with the many clients I work with. The issue always comes down to self-trust. This is just one aspect and one possibility though. One way that turned my life around and continues to do so. This understanding of trust – Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks – came to me whilst writing my book ‘A-Ha Moments – Inspirational Quotes to Shift Your Thinking’. If you enjoyed this blog and the ideas explored here and wish to have your own copy, please go here – Books.
I really feel that we are all being called. It is time now to choose either love or fear. It begins with you, because you are the co-creator and everything you choose to think, feel, have, do, create and generate is a creative force that stems from within you. It is an invitation to look deep within your shadows because that is where the real you is hiding, buried under mountains of judgment. Hiding with all your potential. Trust in yourself. And when you go wrong, then choose to trust in yourself again. Trusting in you is perhaps the most important choice you can ever make if you truly wish to fully receive the experience of unconditional love.
Sending Light to everyone. Holding a vision that you choose to trust yourself. Please love yourself so much that it will never ever be possible to harm yourself or another. The way in which you trust yourself matters much more than you perhaps know.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be in trust.
In Light and Appreciation.
Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.
Have you felt like you were losing your mind over the last several weeks? This period leading up to the blue moon transition in July 2015 has proven to be a very challenging time in a very unique and particular way for so many of us. Listening and seeing all that is going on around, things certainly appear to be chaotic to say the least. The last several weeks I have personally found very challenging and these new energies are certainly keeping me guessing.
Living in New Zealand, on the South Island, I am reminded of our forefathers from all over the world. Those first brave voyagers who set out without really knowing what they would find, yet driven by a fire in their heart that simply would not be quietened. After months at sea, which was perilous enough, they would arrive in a new and different place, to face unknown territory, fauna and flora and native inhabitants. Often driving the windy road through thick undergrowth and steep mountains, I am struck by how modern roadways are taken for granted. Without these constructed and maintained pathways, traveling even a small distance would be a very different experience.
Yet, there is definitely a Spirit of Pioneer in the air. Situations just seem even more topsy-turvy than usual and whilst I consider myself well equipped to steer these currents, I have been thrown quite some unexpected and totally unfamiliar and highly uncomfortable curve balls of late. It seems the frequencies have ultra-increased and there have been moments when I have felt literally as if I have been losing my mind. As someone who enjoys my solitude, even this was discomforting to say the least. What the heck?
The Observer, observes all of this happening and yes, the mind is becoming lost. The dominant mental energy is now becoming more aligned in compliment to the heart energy and this is creating quite a bit of movement and disruption as the process plays itself out. So yes the mind is being loosened and being lost and like those early pioneers, many of us are going where no human has consciously gone before, at least not at the accelerated speed at which it is being done now. And so yes, feeling overloaded is the correct term for what is happening. And No, it doesn’t feel very comfortable at all.
It is very important to stay focused on your bigger picture. Stay positive, even through the negative moments. Find the right people to support you. This is an existential experience and the mind is shrieking in resistance as it knows its days of total power are numbered. If your family and friends are unable to support you, ensure that you are getting quality solo-time if and when required. As the mental takes a back seat, it is important to honour the unfolding of the new, even though the means of understanding it are now totally changed. Tap into your Pioneer Spirit and whilst things may be serious, there is definitely Light on the horizon. Remember that to get to your destination and to handle those detours, keep focused on what it is you want and ensure that you are connecting to the resources within that fuel your Pioneer Spirit. (There was one tool and action I did use over these last few weeks to keep me in the sane as much as possible. Check out my p.s.s. at the end of this article, to find out more and get this tool for yourself!)
When speaking with my healing partner earlier this week, I was reminded that a leader does not have followers. That is not the purpose of a leader in this new energy world. A leader is to set a path and go ahead so that others may follow if they choose. The pioneers of old knew that they were going ahead of everyone. They cleared the way in a manner of speaking. I feel we are being asked to lead the way with our Pioneer Spirit and in turn allow that Pioneer Spirit to lead us to unfamiliar greener pastures. It is time to leave the Known for the Unknown and Trust that all is well in all of Creation.
Like a beautiful butterfly, a complete overhaul is taking place. The caterpillar must transform into another life-form to experience what it is like to fly. I am a transition in transition. These are exciting times to be alive.
Be Bold. Be Courageous. Be Love. Be Safe. Be Your SELF.
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Trilby D. Johnson is an TRANSFORMATIONAL Author and BODY-BRAIN REFORMER WHOSE message of self-actualization, embodiment and self-love invites people from around the world to embrace their Sovereign Authenticity as they release chronic SYMPTOMS around money, health and love. She provides tools and skills for people to live a life free of pain, suffering, sadness and self-limiting beliefs and makes living A SPIRITUAL LIFE practical AND SUCCESSFUL. Find out more about CONNECTING THE DOTS TO WHO YOU TRULY ARE – https://breakthroughsavvy.com
The human mind and how exactly it functions is still very much a mystery today, even to scientists and those of us alive and living this experience of Life. Where does it begin and where does it end and what role does it play in our daily existence? Many theories and philosophies have been and continue to be put forward as to its origin, essence and functioning. Perhaps an even greater mystery however, is that of the human heart and its role in our human experience and emotions.
Thanks to recent research and advanced modern technology, researchers have been able to determine and monitor that the heart itself emits a distinct frequency of its own and that this frequency emission occurs prior to the brains perception of sensory information. This is called the ‘torus or toroidal field’. It is most interesting to note that the auric torus field around the body has its centre in the heart and that it also emits the strongest electromagnetic field (#EMF) in the body. The torus field is found around every atom’s nucleus, and in every cell of the body is found in the DNA spiral helix ‘receiver’. These findings are changing the way in which we view not only how we as humans function, they also present an array of greater possibilities and insights into the way we can live our lives. This goes way beyond what has previously been believed about human’s abilities to think and feel and adds a most interesting perspective to the myriad ways in which we view and experience the aspect of Love.
For many of us, over the past few year’s there has been a very distinctive shift in consciousness, as we have intuitively become more aware of this heart frequency field. Whilst the way this showed up may not seem like anything to do with love – global chaos, breakdown in relationships, business loss, more outbreaks of war, financial challenges, lack of reference points, methods no longer work, etc – there does seem to be an underlying common aspect of transparency that is coming to light. Perhaps the most challenging current aspect so many of us face today, is having the skills in ‘how’ to listen and act upon this frequency in such a way as to enrich our existence further and to step into a state of thriving and release the notions of surviving and striving. To move beyond the illusions of the world reality we know today, on personal and social levels. To embrace a level of personal self-actualization, whilst keeping in mind that as an individual, we are a part of the current society. It behooves us to focus most diligently and lovingly on our own personal journey of self-actualization. Why? Because, in my opinion and in conjunction with the workings of the torus field, the key to a fulfilling and joy filled existence is in choosing with consciousness, to operate from this frequency of Love. Could it be that this IS a hidden Knowing within our very make-up, written in our very DNA – that true unconditional guidance comes from and through the Heart?
Writings about Love and its virtues have been around since the beginnings of time and it continues to fascinate and allure so many today. Yet for so many true Love continues to remain elusive and the experience of only an alloted few. I feel this has to do with the way in which Love is viewed and defined in the group consciousness. There are many kinds of Love and everyone’s experience will differ, according to their personal stories, sensitivities and awareness. For the purpose of this article, the focus is on Self-Love, because in my observation and personal journey, it really is the one Love relationship that nurtures all others and through which all others are experienced. It is the aligning factor in our personal empowerment and autonomy.
The notion of Love and what it is, has been fed to us through social, religious, cultural, political, sexual, gender, familial and spiritual ideologies and philosophies for so long and so subtly that very few of us actually stop at all to ponder what the definition is. The power of the hypnotic entrainment hidden within this one word – the implicit belief and value systems that are so deeply entrenched in the group psyche and their effect – is not to be underestimated. I feel that the symptoms of this hidden agenda can be found in the confusion so many of us feel when it comes to the concept of Love – evidenced in our self- and personal-relationships. Why is it that so many of us do not feel loved or loving, despite holding the trappings of success that this reality decrees as truth? As long as you continue to buy into the commonly held definition and belief system of what love is or supposed to be without stopping to ask if the definition and subsequent belief system is true for you, then you will be unconsciously perpetuating the illusion of separation. And the only way in which this can change is through each of us taking a look at ourselves and then understanding how the energy of love works, so that we can operate from a place of conscious choice, when it comes to what matters most for us.
So how does this energy of love operate? My understanding and growing experience of this frequency called love, is that it really is unconditional. As is all energy mind you! However, there are frequencies and frequencies from which to choose. Everything in the Universe is currently experiencing a rise in vibrational frequency. There is an ongoing debate amongst researchers and authors as to what the actual hertz frequency of love is, as even here different definitions and thus belief systems are at play and providing interesting points of view. I personally feel that when one is in the presence of love, there is no doubt, nor words, which is in and of itself a challenge for the human mind. The human mind has been trained throughout social evolution to cognitively compartmentalize ideas, concepts, emotions, thoughts, behaviours. In other words, to make ‘reality’ fit! The Love energy does not operate along these linear and conceptual lines, despite all of mankind’s manipulation to make it appear so. Thus the concept of unconditional love. So what does this mean for you?
1. Drop all judgment
The biggest killer today is judgment. I am not talking about the kind of judgment which pertains to the purely cognitive processing of data. I am referring to the polarity based thought-forms that are instigate and rife on this planet. That creates the illusion of separation – even in love. Romantic love is a good example. How? This concept feeds the notion that we are separate. Not only as an individual but also within ourselves. That we can only be fulfilled when we have found our opposite! Then the true definition of what an opposite is, has been deliberately tampered with. When coming from a place of polarity there is never a winner. Not long-term. Because there will always be division. This is a distraction to lead us away from the fact that we are already One. Within Your-Self you are One. The vital life force that animates us all, is the same Source. Everything is already within each of us. The feminine and masculine aspects. Jung’s work highlighted this, although the cultural and professional context in which his work was presented, distorted his work to fit the accepted version of reality. So whilst there are gender differences, each gender holds within the whole!
As long as you are judging any part of you, you are in polarity thinking and divided within yourself. There is no division in love. It accepts everything as it is, whilst maintaining its unique resonence frequency. When you hold yourself in this particular frequency and make a choice from that space and place, there is no separation. And how will you know? Because you will have a sense of wholeness and completion.
2. Accepting what is
Byron Katie speaks of this in her work. What I love about Byron Katie, is her untiring drive for what I consider spiritual practicality. This suits me too, because we are after all faced with physical requirements here on this Earth plane. Allowing is for me a form of receiving which honours what is. To me it feels like that meditative state of knowing that there is an observer to all that transpires. There is no need to silence the mind, for it has its role to play. There is no need to choose between this or that, for there is the knowing that I am not that. There is the peace that comes with taking respons-ability for what is in my life now and then consciously choosing which step to take next and the direction.
A common belief is that giving is better than receiving. Really? For many years there was an incongruency around this energy dynamic for me. When I looked at who was stating this information as fact it made sense. All those organizations that stood to profit financially from people’s sense of guilt. Guilt, like many emotions, is based in limited thinking. It is time to re-cognize that the Universe is abundant. Just look at Nature to see this and also please acknowledge that you are a part of this Nature. Whist there is an order within Nature there is no judgment. There is a natural gifting just because!
The Universe is set-up to give you whatever you ask for. How do you ‘ask’? By means of your dominant vibration. So are you willing to accept that the Universe is abundant and simply desires to deliver unto you that which you ask for? When you compartmentalize your energy into good/bad, right/wrong, black/white you create a mixed signal. And the Universe responds. When you accept whatever it is, as it is and embrace it with love, there literally are no limitations. And the Universe responds.
3. Loving it all
Love does not discriminate between good and bad energy. To do so would require judgment. Love knows no taboos, yet respects all choices. Love is beyond belief systems, which are all creations of the mind. You cannot love some parts of yourself and not others and expect to experience wholeness. What you will experience is fragmentation. This is what is meant by the shadow-self. Not that this is good or bad. It simply is.
For many years, in my endeavour to move out of suffering and to be positive, I denied many emotions like fear, anger, anxiety, sadness, hatred etc. because they were labelled as ‘negative’. On a vibrational level, what this now means to me, is that these are heavier frequencies. And I feel it straight away when I pick up on them. With the exception that now I welcome them in, firmly balanced in the frequency of love. My version admittedly, however the transformation that occurs is undeniable. How do I know? Because I feel it with every fibre of my being.
4. Let your body be your guide
Your physical body is the greatest sensory computer available to you. It is constantly giving you information and feedback as to what is going on around you, so that you can choose what experience you desire to have next. So many people think of their body as a ‘thing’. I am still amazed at how cut off people can be from the living organism in which they live daily. I feel that much of the obsession with sex is a side effect of this sense of disconnection. For centuries the human body has been literally buried alive under judgment fueled by religions and cultural beliefs, in many ways fueling this dis-ease around the human body. Etiquette was established to define where and how it was acceptable to enjoy one’s physicality and anything outside of this was judged as depraved or a sin.
The body remembers everything. And not only from one lifetime. Cellular memory can be passed down from generation to generation through blood lines and DNA, if it remains hidden in the subconscious and is not transmuted. What I particularly love about bodies though and working with them, is that they never lie. Just like energy! What a coincidence, n’est pas. 🙂
Whilst your human body is very much programmed and designed to be in service to you, the vehicle for your Soul during your Earthly adventure, it does have an innate state of self-preservation. And thank goodness I say. When the balance between the human mind and the body consciousness drops out of alignment, energy begins to collect and creates a dis-ease. This can show up as a mental physical manifestation, like depression or anxiety. Or it can show up as a physical manifestation in the form of a physical misalignment, like cancer, pain, arthritis, etc.
So then in regard to the torus field, when you do not listen to your body, you are ignoring and impeding your Heart’s Knowing – connected to a far greater source of pure information than your brain – from enriching your human physical experience and its connection to universal energy.
So what is the value of compartmentalizing Love, or anything else for that matter? Just as a positive will cancel out a negative, so a higher frequency will entrain lower vibrational frequencies to accelerate and escalate their vibration in an ascending movement. So lower density energies are invited to move to a higher frequency. This is the reason that when you find yourself in the presence of true unconditional love, there will be no doubt in your mind. Because you will have become mind-less and heart-filled.
When you take action to consciously choose the space of frequency from which you desire to operate from, there is a huge shift. The Universe is a living and intelligent Energy Source that captures absolutely everything and responds accordingly. It takes an effort of your will, i.e. action to choose your thoughts. This will then impact and influence your behaviour, i.e. your doing. This will then be held within your YOU-nique vibrational frequency that you emit, i.e. your being. This is similar to being able to observe the ripple and the effect as separate yet the same movement. Just as when a pebble is thrown into a pond, this action creates the movement in the water, that sets the stage for the water to change it’s surface tension.
In conclusion, I invite you to please claim to know that everything is already within you. You come from Love because this is at your essence, as Source. You are already Love! I invite you to choose to step out from this space of Knowing and watch how you change the world as you step into a Beingness that goes way beyond your current identity and personality. As Gandi said, ‘Be the change that you wish to see in the world!‘. This is about expansion, not about contraction, which compartmentalization is. The mind will never fully understand what the heart knows, however, it can be useful in it’s appropriate role and function. That is, to instigate the action required in this physical existence, after all information has been aligned with and from unfetted and unconditional Love.
May you enjoy the unfolding and expansion of your creations.