Oscar Wilde’s insightful quote, “With age comes wisdom, but sometimes age comes alone.”, really resonates with me. This highlights that across our lives we always have the choice of what we believe and how we respond. This is the essence of any mindset and being responsible when it comes to ageing and how each of us will experience this. Many people still do not know or embrace this. And quite honestly, because we haven’t been taught to think of ageing as anything other than ‘growing old’. Ageing, is often a reminder of our mortality. This scares many people.
I enjoy ageing gracefully – it’s true, I do! One reason for this is that it means I am alive! For many years – when younger – I struggled to enjoy being alive. I felt confused, an outsider in my own life and on several occasions didn’t want to live. Today, I celebrate each day and that I am alive and even more so, that I chose to stick around and embrace life. I enjoying this phase of the adventure that is my life.
Today, I love ageing gracefully because I used to be at the opposite of the spectrum – I was scared of living! When I chose to embrace both life and death as an experience on the continuum of life itself, I was freed from mindsets of stress and fear.
Stress and fear have a huge impact on our physical bodies and cause the body to age much quicker. The energy of our emotions and thoughts have a direct impact on our physical bodies. This knowledge is still vague and misunderstood for many, not to mention the ability to change this.
When I meet with a prospective client, we discuss some of the aspects that come to light for them and also where I can encourage them to begin enjoying their ageing process in a happy and healthy way and offer ways in which they can accomplish this.
As my relationship with my own body has grown and deepened, I am enjoying the different experiences I have. Yes, I can look in the mirror and notice that my face has more wrinkles and judge these as undesirable. Compared to whose face though? Who am I going to compare my own unique face to anyway?
I feel much calmer and confident within myself now and worry less about what the fashion is and more about feeling comfortable and happy with what I am doing. And I love seeing how others find their way of expressing themselves.
I openly declare each birthday that I am and feel younger. I enjoy the joy that I feel when I doing this. I also find it amusing to see the disbelieving glances from others, who don’t know me or think I am quite mad. I have had others warn me about menopause and how this will change my life and body. “Good” I say! I welcome these changes all with ease.
When did we ever become so resistant and abhorrent of this phase of change? Ageing is a natural process and different phase of life. Resisting it is not going to make it any easier or more enjoyable.
I know that it is possible for the human body to age differently than from the commonly held current mindset. We can observe this already with many mature elders who certainly do not resemble their basic physical age, as previous generations may have. Access to better living conditions and food has played a role here, however, mindset is the final frontier to explore.
The human body changes for sure. The speed and degree to which it does and how it ages depends largely on the belief systems that a person adheres too. This is evident in where several people of the same ages can have very different appearances.
Being present in and with my body each moment, while I may be ageing, I don’t feel like I am becoming old. I have more energy and joy in my life today that I did when I was much younger. I find it amazing when I do think about my physical age, because it really is just a reference number on my birth certificate.
What about the future? Well I will deal with that one day at a time. I love ageing gracefully and while I do this, I feel alive. Yes, I have up and down days – I don’t blame it on growing old though – because I know about my infinite nature. Could that make the difference?
Would we age or grow old and to the degree that we do, if we didn’t hold the current beliefs that we do? I know that bodies hears, feels and see everything and the process of ageing is a collaboration. Together, we are on a wonderful journey – two fellow travellers and conscious creators. I find it empowering to explore the possibilities of being forever younger in body, mind and spirit.
In my own personal transformation and from working with many clients and their beautiful bodies, minds and souls – I have glimpsed future possibilities that are beyond time and limitations.
Perhaps ageing serves to remind us of our mortality to wake us up and break down the resistance we have to this life phase. When we truly understand how our beliefs and thoughts impact on our physical environment and circumstances, does it not stand to reason that we may be selling ourselves short?
Allow the ageing process to become one of celebration and exploring new aspects of ourselves and life, rather than the current perception of ageing as a slow and often painful decline into nothingness.
Enjoy every moment of your life, not because it may be your last and more because you are still alive and kicking.
AGE IS NOT IMPORTANT! WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS NOW – Trilby Johnson
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Trilby
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I agree Tribly…NOW is where life truly is. Loved reading your thoughts on this topic.
Thank you Zeenat and glad you loved reading this topics.
Living in the present moment is the best way to be alive! Thanks Trilby for reminding us of the positives of ageing.
Glad you enjoyed the positives Lisa.
Thanks, Trilby, for sharing your wisdom around aging. It is a challenge in this youth-obsessed culture, for sure. That’s why voices like yours, which run counter to the prevailing POV, are super important and valuable in creating a much-needed healthy shift that will truly benefit everyone.
Most welcome Reba. Yes I feel it’s important to offer alternative ways of looking at situations and enjoying the diversity that’s available. We need to cultivate mindsets that encourage wisdom.
I love that you openly declare that you feel younger on each birthday. I know too many people who look at their birthdays as a punishment versus the blessing that it is. This is a wonderful article to remind us to pay attention to our thoughts, beliefs and words used to describe the process of aging. Thanks for sharing your pearls of wisdom.
Yes it opens my heart to declare this because it’s also how I felt… I feel joyful to be alive. Glad you enjoyed the reminder and thank you for reading it.
Aging is something I think a lot about in my life and practice, as a holistic health coach I draw inspiration from people and communities that live well into old age, like the blue zones. I totally agree that mindset plays a big role.
Thank you Rachel. Yes mindset is a game changer for sure.
I love your post. What amazes me about aging is the contrast that I experience from where I am now, from what I imagined it to be many years ago. I thought somehow, that I would be settled and ready for leisure time. What I experience is that I am on an adventure, and leisure time – what’s that? Thank you for your insights!
Thank you Megan and glad you found the blog insightful. Our notion of ‘age’ can indeed expand as we age and our bodies support this as they go through hormonal changes, which sadly have been medically and socially labelled misleadingly. Nothing beats informed conscious experience.