Living On The Edge

Living On The Edge

Living on the edge, is a term that holds within its implicit definition (at least for the context of this blog) a hint of danger, excitement, difference, exclusion, eccentricity, being out of control, tending to lean towards something unsavoury for many and with a risk of losing balance.  Sailors of old, lived with the superstition that if they reached the horizon, they would fall off the edge of the Earth, as the current belief was that the Earth was flat. 

 

Few dared venture to the edge, for fear of falling off.  So sailing was probably a very limited experience initially. Until that time, when somehow some daring and curious sailor headed for the horizon and found that on reaching the horizon, another horizon magically appeared ahead and unfolded into untold greater possibilities and experiences.

 

There are many such horizons in our everyday societies, dependent on our cultural, gender and financial standing, and that are still embedded in a kind of superstitious and hypnotic ‘logic’.  In our Western society, success is closely and primarily linked to finances and many idioms have been created over time to reinforce these beliefs.  Monetary power rules the world and humans scramble around in a seemingly difficult and losing battle to fit in.

 

Money has been held responsible for so much in this world and as long as humans continue to think about money in this way, to hold the beliefs they do about what money is or isn’t, well like those sailors of old, most of us will not ever get very much past the harbour before turning back, in fear of falling off or failing.  And so, most people are not curious or intrepid enough to actually head for the horizon and actually discover the world the lies beyond.  Concepts, definitions, standards and judgements are used to keep everything in a place of separation and thus mass disempowerment.

 

Few people live on the edge, and if they do, society and the medical professions, have very powerful structures in place to deter any further exploration.  We have not been given the tools or shown how to live on the edge in a healthy and empowering way, because we would then be uncontrollable. 

 

In the movie, “The Truman Show” starring Jim Carrey, the manipulation within our current society structure an which most of us think of as reality, is highlighted very clearly.  There is no man who is more a prisoner than the man who believes he is free and happy, but lives within a prison.  What one believes is what one will see and experience. This does not mean that what one is experiencing is essentially TRUE however!  So how does one know whether one is being manipulated?  

 

In ‘The Truman Show’ movie, the manipulation becomes clearer when the character begins to choose something that goes against the stream, that is different and that departs from the illusion of the ‘norm’.  The point here is not to imply that one is right or wrong, good or bad, black or white.  It is not about judging manipulation as something good or bad, but rather about being aware of where manipulation is occurring, either to or by us.  And then taking respons-ability for what we choose to do and how we can experience living on the edge.

 

Living on the edge, affords a greater vantage point, where it is possible to look at what has been and to look forward to what is possible.  To have this vantage point however, one must have the courage to venture to the edge of one’s comfort zone and walk up to the horizon.  And yes, there can be periods when the lines are blurred and awareness seems to waiver and there are no clear points of reference. It can be an uncomfortable place and this fear of being uncomfortable is what keeps most of us, to some extent and at certain phases of our lives, immobile.

 

We have been mislead to believe that being comfortable means right and being uncomfortable means wrong.  Our social structures and religious teachings are riddled with these paradoxes.  When one lives on the edge, it is possible to see these paradoxes and the confusion they create, deliberately so.  Like a deer caught in the headlights, confusion keeps many in a place of uncertainty and immobilization, which ironically can prove fatal and leaves one more vulnerable that anyone living on the edge could ever be.

 

When one is living on the edge, one needs to be nimble and alert, very present and conscious. Perhaps the thing most of us fear and think we lack, is trust. Trust in One ’s Self.  For if we have bought into the beLIEf that trust is something one finds from success, thus linked to money or something externally, we will continue to experience living on the edge as something unsavoury, unstable and to be avoided at all costs.  The power of enchantment is that it makes the illusion appear real. 

 

The advantage of living on the edge, is that one is able to see the illusion for what it is and to choose from that cusp of reality. It takes courage to live on the edge, as pulling out of the illusion brings up feelings of separation, difference, not fitting in, failure, guilt, sadness, loss and comes face to face with one’s shadow.  This happens on a continuum in different areas of one’s lives.  For example, when a person seems to experience a bout of what is termed as either good or bad luck.  Remember, just like those first courageous sailors of old who dared to sail to the horizon, once there they had the awareness that everything was different and continued on to unfold.

 

So is it possible to live on the edge comfortably and in trust?  The answer depends on what you choose.  Life is what you make it. And you make you Life what is it, by the choice of B.S. (Belief Systems) you have.  At this point in our evolution as a race, the awareness of ourselves as Creators serves as our greatest strength and stumbling block.  We stand on the cusp of different vantage points and whilst many of us are being urged on, almost against our will, we move forward cautiously into new territory, crossing the ‘horizontal’ line, yet also look back with a certain sense of longing behind us.  It is a time of shaking off the old ways and standing in one’s knowing that trust is a SELF-creation.  Everything is within first and then is reflected without.

 

I will end with a really cool analogy of what living on the edge showed up like for me.  I recently moved several kilometres out of town.  Only a small change in distance on the surface of things, but what has turned into quite a change in lifestyle.  My car radio is programmed to various radio stations and so with this move, clear reception was affected when I reached a certain part of the road.  Whilst noticing this, I didn’t think much of it and was belligerently okay with this type of reception for several days.  By chance, I happened to put on a CD and erroneously pushed the wrong button on the radio. This caused my radio to automatically search for a new radio frequency. In that moment, I got it!!

 

Everything in the Universe is in constant motion and yes that includes us. Even though our lives may appear the same every day and in many ways most of us seek to maintain this status quo, the energy that underlies all things, is in constant motion and expansion.  By geographically changing my position when moving, I had shifted my band width so to say and was now in a phase of fine-tuning.  

 

When we change, whether this means a geographically or simply a change in thought patterns, we move into different zones of vibrational frequencies.  Suddenly things, people, situations that may have been around us for a while may drop away or show up.  It is important to acknowledge and allow this dynamic and honour all the emotions that this may bring up.  We can only heal what we feel!  Denial, repression and suppression of what we are feeling, whether it be light and fluffy or dark and dangerous, IS key.

 

Living on the edge is like a state of organic being which I feel honours the logistics of energy in motion.  Everyday and throughout our choices, we are fine tuning into different yet similar vibration frequencies, just as we may choose to tune into different radio stations.  This means being willing to let go AND to let in.

 

Could it be that Living on the Edge is a truer way of actual Living?  And that beyond the uncomfortable, scary bits lays a limitless and expansive dimension of Being to which we are just now awakening?  Well dear Reader, I leave you to explore these possibilities.

May you enjoy your experience of Living on the Edge.

In Light. 
Trilby

 

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Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Metaphysical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Clients hire her to stop struggling and move beyond limitation. Trilby assists in creating the new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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Your Home Is Your Body

Your Home Is Your Body

Where do you live and under what conditions? Since the age of 17 I have moved 25 times. I haven’t counted the times I moved prior to 17, but it was a lot. I don’t mind and I guess in some way this nurtured my love for travel. I have also had four major country moves in my life and I look forward to more. One thing I have learned from all this moving around though is that wherever I go, I take myself with me. Despite being in new surroundings after some time, the same old patterns would begin to emerge. Have you had this happen to you?

I am sharing this, because most people think of their home as the physical address where they live. There is a place that you live first and foremost though. Your body! Your first and permanent home, whilst you are alive, is your body. Whilst people take tremendous care of their physical houses and places of residence, most have very little knowledge of their true home – their body. This is the reason that so many give away their power to health professionals who supposedly know more about their home than they do. And this is partially true because we have been led away from our true homes. Everything is within and your access route is via your body.

 

So as your body is the place that you really live in and with for your whole life, what kind of a home do you want to experience and have? The conditions that you live in and under – with regards to your body – are extremely important as they will impact directly on the quality of your life’s experience. What if you had a home that is comfortable, that suits you, that supports you, where you can relax, where there is no judgement, where you can truly be you 24/7, where you can connect to health, abundance, love, joy and to your Self, etc.!

 

Over my 30 years as a Metaphysical Intuitive and Healer, I’ve seen how disconnected so many are from their bodies. As long as you are disconnected and not fully present in and with your body, you will not experience being home. Most people are not even aware that they are in a space of disconnect because our brains have be wired to overlook this information, particularly in this very mental focused world. The mental will always keep you in the mental. Whereas your body will bring you information from your body-mind-soul. This is the reason that becoming aware of whether, where and how we are connected is, I feel, imperative to us finally experiencing the lives we say we desire. This is the Vision I hold because it has been my life’s experience.

 

For many years I looked outside of myself for a sense of being home and it was only when I started to love and honour my body exactly as it was that my sense of confidence, love and joy expanded. It was then that I began to get an inkling of the immense wisdom that was hidden and that came through my physical sensations, hunches and feelings. Our bodies capture the language of the Universe – Energy – and are constantly communicating it to us.

 

Up until now, many of us however have ignored these signals because we have been given misguided information, if any at all. To truly experience living orgasmically – that sense of total and unlimited and beyond time sensual connection to all that is – we have to overcome first the fear – yes fear – of our bodies and then we have to learn to open up to the language of our body-mind-soul connection, which is all channeled via our physical body and aura.

 

Before we can love our body, we have to establish a connection and if there is a connection already, be willing to explore it further. True intimacy begins within each of us and it is only through a sense of self-trust that a reliable and confident connection comes about. As well as through trial and error. So don’t beat yourself up over it. When you learned to walk, you did it one step at a time.

 

Also a healthy connection will flourish and become better integrated in a kind and loving environment. And it starts with you choosing these vibrations and then allowing whatever that is not or is to show up and be experienced so that it can be set free. Energy simply wants to move and it is our personalities that lock energy into our bodies through our choices of thoughts, feelings and emotions.

 

I feel now more than ever, we’re now at a time in evolution where shifting through and out of this is possible. The place to start, is at home. That means you and your body – the connection to your reality.

In Light and Appreciation
Trilby

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Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Metaphysical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck in body, mind, emotion and soul and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists in creating new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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Falling to peaces

Falling to peaces

 

 

It’s been said many times that the only constant in Life is change. Yet people cling to the same old same so desperately in a vain attempt to slow things down, or to stop this  inevitable unfolding.

 

I use the term “change” here in the sense of growth and expansion and as a natural movement of Life and Living. Not in the sense that something is wrong and needs fixing.

 

When one truly embraces change as a daily constant, there is a fluidity and transparency that begins to appear, at first in bursts and spurts, and then increases in amplitude. However, before this may show up, everything one seems familiar with or takes at face value can begin to crumble. Everything that one may have held as steadfast and that is false and related to one’s sense of identity is challenged and requires letting go of.

 

Paradoxically, as these layers of acquired identity begin to unravel, one may find one’s self experiencing a sense of profound confusion, disorientation, loss, sadness, grief, interspersed with moments of intense ecstacy. This turbulent period can seem endless and has often been referred to as the ‘dark night of the Soul’, whereas what if it is more of a death of the Ego?

This is the moment when the Soul begins to shake off the shackles of lifetime’s of conditioning, persecution and torture. And the Ego stamps and screams, imploring one to get things back together because everything is “falling apart or to pieces (peaces)”. This is the lie that the Ego-Self uses to get us to cling so desperately at straws. Needless to say, it is very dramatic and seems very real and urgent.

 

Yet the more time passes and the facade falls away, a strange thing begins to happen. Perhaps fleetingly at first, one begins to feel bored by all the drama and trauma. For many this will result in extra bursts of activity as the attempt is made to fill the void. Until one just ends up feeling more exhausted and facing a yawning and seemingly empty pit. Some resist falling into oblivion by creating dis-ease, depression, bankruptcy, addictions, relationship or money issues. This only perpetuates the drama a while longer, but the Soul is unrelenting in it’s purpose. And what may seem as if one’s life is falling apart, is actually a “fall-in2 peaces”!

 

Warning – there is no drama or trauma to peace.

 

There is nothing to push against or fight for. At first it may seem boring, as all the usual external stimuli no longer have their previous pull of attraction. What was previously thought to be the void, is a growing sense of detachment that has been establishing itself firmly in the seat of Consciousness. Having fallen into peace can seem strangely unsettling and uncomfortable at first, which may be unexpected in association with peace. The state of being in and at Peace is a new experience for so many of us. The common notion of peace has very little to do with this majestic experience of peaceful Be-ing.

 

The actual experience of peace is beyond the awareness of the masses at the moment, until we all fall-in2 peaces.

In Light
Trilby

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Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Metaphysical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck in body, mind, emotion and soul and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists in creating new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.

 

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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Authentic Relating – the most important relationship you will ever have

Authentic Relating – the most important relationship you will ever have

Do you know how to relate authentically? No secrets here …………. it begins with YOU. The kind of relationship you have with yourself, will impact on other areas of your life. On your health, wealth, relationships, work and spirituality. For truly everything is within before it shows up without.
 
To create true and lasting change in one’s life and the world, the change starts with oneself. And I mean change as in stepping into or towards total, complete, all-encompassing, unconditional allowance and gratefulness for who we are, in all our complex, confusing, magnificence ….. NOW!
Awareness to what is going on, is the first step and then choosing. So what does this awareness look like and where can it be found? And once aware how can we create the change we desire ?
    Whatever is going on in your life, your body, your relationships etc serves as a reflection and offers information as to what kind of vibrational frequency we are at. So, we can get information from these experiences. And from here choose consciously where we desire to travel next and what kind of an experience we are seeking to have.

Plus, there is a whole arena of vibrational frequencies that is just beyond our current level of perception. This is just how energy works. Like a radio station – you have to tune in to the exact frequency to catch the show and when you are in range you can tune in. All that static you can hear, is information that is on another frequency.   Sometimes it’s this static that draws us and that hold the new information we require to take the next step. However, how can we tune in to receive it. As Neale Donald Walsch wrote, “Your real life begins, beyond your comfort zones.”
So what’s it going take to first of all recognise those comfort zones, then know how to choose which are working for you or not, and then choose to focus on what does work?
Often we know we have to choose something different – the signs are all around – however we do not know how to. Choosing a mentor or facilitator is a great choice. I have been fortunate in my life to have received counsel and mentoring from some amazing people and the greatest gift I received was that of objectivity.
A blind spot is a specific vibrational frequency and so having a third person who is inspiring, uplifting and most importantly non-judgemental to guide me to recognising them and how to clear their electromagnetic imprint has been worth the blood, sweat and the tears – leaving space and infinite possibilities. It has given me the ability to be the Observer more and more in my life.
When we are able to stand in a place as the Observer, we are able to see all, without judgement. Meditation teaches us this – for me this is the lesson in the practice of the law of detached consciousness. It gives us the space and tools with which we can see the wood for the trees and opens up an infinite choice of possibility.
My personal journey has been one of learning to love myself 100% – the good, the bad and the ugly. I have and continue to embrace my darker side and to enjoy expanding with it more into my lighter sides. My criteria for choice today are ease and joy. Is this something you would like for you too?
What if you are the one you have been waiting for? And what if the waiting is now over? It is You and the time is NOW!

By the Light of the God I AM
I release all procrastination and indecisiveness
I acknowledge the power to create, the courage to believe
And the willingness to receive the abundance of the universe
I embrace the awareness to actualise my purpose
I release my childhood contract where I felt I had to save myself from myself and others
Now, as an enlightened being, I know that I cannot be all things to all people.
My greatest joy is living my authentic self
(Author Unknown)   Trust this inspires you to know just how valuable you are. And please don’t allow the terminology used and that perhaps doesn’t resonate with you to be a distraction that keeps you once again from authentically relating with your true Essence.  

Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Metaphysical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck in body, mind, emotion and soul and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists in creating new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.

 Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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5 Ways To Free Yourself From Emotional Rollercoasters

5 Ways To Free Yourself From Emotional Rollercoasters

Emotions are very much a part of our daily lives and are deemed to be what distinguishes us from other ‘animals.’ Yet they can also be what trips us up again and again, as long as we are slaves to them, rather than their master. For much of my life, I was on a series of distressful emotional roller-coasters that eventually resulted in mental and emotional health issues. Long-term these impacted on my relationships, jobs, finances, health and mindset.  Until one day, over feeling miserable and broken, I said, ‘No More.’

To change, I sought out information and professionals to help me acquire the skills I needed and that I hadn’t received while growing up. I was thirsty for knowledge and wanted to learn how to be happy without feeling like life was an emotional roller-coaster that was out of control.

Here are 5 Ways to be Free of Emotional Roller-Coasters that I Found to Work:

 

1. Keep Off the Ride:

This may seem obvious and yet it’s often overlooked. It’s important to know what pushes your buttons and to then manage situations and people you allow into your life.  How often do you get that little niggle inside and you ignore it? This is where the roller coaster ride begins – when we don’t heed that inner knowing of what is and isn’t good for us. This often occurs as we are afraid of being judged, failing, not fitting in or being wrong.

It’s important to notice and acknowledge all emotions, whether they are considered good or bad. They are messengers of the programmes playing out in our heads and which we are often indoctrinated into as we grow up, through parents, society, culture, and religion.

Get to know and manage your own personal emotional states, which will mean that you can make more informed decisions and be able to manage yourself with more confidence.

 

2. Meditate on A Regular Basis:

Meditation is a great preventative measure when done on a regular basis, as it helps the brain to actually have the time to organize information with you aware. Practised regularly, this helps diffuse and process volatile emotional energies before they get out of control.

Contrary to what many may believe or have been instructed, I found attempting to meditate when you are in the throes of strong emotions is futile. It’s like blowing on a fire that is already out of control in an attempt to put it out. Don’t try to meditate when you are on an emotional roller-coaster as this can feel like things are actually getting worse!

Wait until you are feeling calmer before you sit down to meditation.

Meditation helps to install a practise of being able to respond more calmly and mindfully to daily events.

 

3. Count to 10:

Ever heard Grandma say this? Well, she was definitely wise and onto something. It’s always wise to avoid taking action or making decisions when on an emotional roller-coaster. We have all experienced the damage one can do when under strong emotion and the regret that follows.

Emotions, especially strong ones, can swamp the brain, as it becomes flooded with physical reactions and then the brain is challenged on which reaction to prioritise. When stopping to count to 10, this gives the body a short lapse of time that opens a window in the brain, to move from flight and fight to more logical processing.

 

4. Stop and Breathe:

This simple yet powerful tool continues to be underused. When I say ‘take a breath’ to clients they laugh or make some cryptic comment – at least at first. And yet, stopping to take a breath changes everything.

Firstly, the act of stopping stops you. Use the previous point of counting to 10 to help you stop. Do this physically – pull over in the car, leave the room, stand up if sitting or sit down if standing. Change your physical stance.

Next, focus on taking a big conscious breath. Take several until you feel something shift. If the emotions begin to bubble up again, acknowledge them and make a conscious decision to deal with them at a later time once you are calmer and can think straight.

The mind is a great selection tool when calm and clear and not clouded by strong emotions. A clear head allows you to make a more informed choice and choose how to behave appropriately. Stopping and breathing will give you the time to choose.

The more often you practise stopping to take a conscious breath, the more you will unlock your secret weapon to stress release. I invite you to access my free audio DESTRESS DETOX RELAX now.

 

5. Learn Empowering Life Skills:

Hire a mentor or coach to learn the life skills you are missing. Most of us have not be taught how to manage our emotions in healthy ways and so we keep on repeating the same behavioural patterns. Until we replace the pattern with something new and different. If you struggle with emotional overwhelm often, there is no shame in seeking out support.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” well, neither was your emotional make-up.

Here are A Few Examples on How to Slowly Increase New Life Skills:

  • Read a wide range of articles on emotional intelligence and techniques.
  • Keep a journal of your own emotions and write about them – putting things down on paper is very empowering and it also keeps you accountable.
  • Make friends with your emotions – it’s easier to install change in a friendly environment.
  • Talk to other people and listen to their stories – it helps give a bigger picture.

 

As humans, we love to have meaning in our life… to feel the thrill… which can sometimes be found while on roller-coasters.

It’s not everyone’s cup of tea though, and especially if you end up feeling derailed emotionally most of the time.

Life is not meant to lived as a constant roller-coaster ride, at least in my opinion; it’s meant more to be about gentle rises and falls and ebbs and flows. The above suggestions can help in learning to master emotions in ways that are healthy and beneficial to you and those around you, so that there’s more freedom and enjoyment rather than drama at the expense of one’s sanity and well-being.

– Trilby


Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists them in creating and experiencing new energetic pathways that lead to breakthrough and beyond.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready to breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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