A Matter of Trust And What Keeps Love At A Distance

A Matter of Trust And What Keeps Love At A Distance

TRUSTThe terrorist events back in 2015 in Paris shook many of us to the core and raised a new level of awareness around war and peace. It has shaken our sense of security, however flimsy that may actually be and awoken in us the fear that we are no longer safe.  Whilst the recent incidents in Paris most certainly got the Western world’s attention, it has of course raised issues as well about all the other events of mass suffering that are going on and that get little media focus. It has also made the levels of fear skyrocket which is the motive of anyone who uses force and brutality. And for the most part it worked. Or did it?

In the moment perhaps, but there is something new being born, apparent on social networking and beyond the main medias reach. There is a movement of trust and love and a willingness to take accountability showing up. And so whilst many are indeed experiencing fear, which is a legitimate emotion, there also is an awareness that it is now time to make a choice. The new age is now today and I feel we are being shown quite clearly that the choices we make from this moment on, are of pivotal importance. It’s a matter of trust. More to the point however, is trust in who or what and can anything be trusted at all in these uncertain times?

I see a new thought field around love gathering momentum and thank goodness many more people appear to be responding with love rather than reacting in fear. And yet this upsurge of destructive action indicates that for many love is still an illusive state of being, despite this new unfolding of a very strong desire and demand to move away from violence as means of accomplishing anything of value and sustainable.

What is also in question here is, who is responsible? We blame society, but we are society. And so it really is time to stop and take a long hard look at our daily actions. For the most part, most people agree that all you need is love, as the Beatles sang. Yet what is visible in the external world and a reflected representation of the underlying inner and subconscious world, within us, is that there is not that much love. As more Light is brought in, the Shadows will also show up in stark contrast and this is what is occurring. I myself have desired to be more loving and yes loved and yet this simple desire on its own has not proven easy to attain. This, in spite of and despite my choosing to love more. Beginning with myself. It is in my journey of falling in love with myself again, that I uncovered what for me is the missing link, that will bind the intention to the behaviour and experience. A matter of trust!

In my exploration of my shadow-self, I uncovered a side to what is supposedly ‘love’ that is nasty, controlling, selfish, disempowering and terribly confusing. Listen to many of the love songs on the radio today and the message they give. Love always seems to be unrequited. What’s with that? There must be something missing! And whilst love does seem to be all we need, the current definition and implicit meanings within this noun and verb are creating terrible suffering and misguided information. The word ‘love’ has been so misused and abused that people find themselves running after this state often only to crash down with terrible disappointment and harm. How many times have you been told that it’s for your own good and because you are loved, when in fact it was just another step in applying a notion that belongs to someone else. Love is so tangled up in social and religious and cultural beliefs that it has been strangled almost to death. If love is truly to be what saves us, then it is in desperate need of an overhaul. Or we need a new way to access it’s potential.

Now don’t get me wrong. I believe very much in love and yes I am a romantic. However, I am no longer caught up in the entrainment that is behind the general definition and use of this word in so many cases. If love was as simple as that, then how come it is such a struggle for so many? In my experience, true love requires a safe place in which it can truly unfold and blossom. For love to sprout in our hearts and mind, requires vulnerability beyond the daily demands of the ego that is rooted in belief systems that do not always serve our personal values. For love to truly become visible in my daily experience, something that I could feel in every fibre of my being, I first had to choose to trust myself. Without trusting in me, my life lay around me in tatters and no matter how much I wanted to build something loving, the foundations were shaky and so always crumbled. Trust is the foundation on which love stands. Your trust for yourself, no one else. Trust is when you choose to follow your own inner voice no matter what, because it’s Knowing cannot be denied anymore.

So much of the misunderstanding around love I believe is because it is like a carrot that has been dangled in front of our noses for centuries. Yet it is seldom achievable by the masses. For me the missing link is a matter of trust. Without trust in yourself it is difficult to trust in life, because life will reflect back to you, all the places you distrust yourself and there is nowhere for love to plant its roots. To open your heart so wide that you are totally exposed and yet totally whole, takes trust.  As long as self-trust is missing, true love will continue to slip through our fingers. Always just out of reach. Like learning to run before you can walk. Trust is about consciously choosing to know and continue to choose to know that you are always safe, that life is but a dream and that love is a many splendid thing. Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks.

Life has shown me that before I can truly embrace my Greatness, I have to trust in myself. And love, happiness, joy, well-being are all the fruits of this choice to listen to those whispers of my Heart’s Knowing. Trust for me is my connection to knowing that I too am a part of All That Is and that runs through everything. True Love is unconditional and flows through everything, yet trust is the key to receiving. When you are missing this key, it is difficult to receive because there is no trust. No trust in yourself, that you are Divine enough to know and significant enough to receive. Therefore true love continues to wait patiently and unconditionally until you do. It’s a matter of trust!

This is a vast and complex topic and of course you will have your own points of view. I just feel it is time to address what I see is going on. Not just for myself but with the many clients I work with. The issue always comes down to self-trust. This is just one aspect and one possibility though. One way that turned my life around and continues to do so. This understanding of trust – Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks – came to me whilst writing my book ‘A-Ha Moments – Inspirational Quotes to Shift Your Thinking’. If you enjoyed this blog and the ideas explored here and wish to have your own copy, please go here – Books.

I really feel that we are all being called. It is time now to choose either love or fear. It begins with you, because you are the co-creator and everything you choose to think, feel, have, do, create and generate is a creative force that stems from within you. It is an invitation to look deep within your shadows because that is where the real you is hiding, buried under mountains of judgment. Hiding with all your potential. Trust in yourself. And when you go wrong, then choose to trust in yourself again. Trusting in you is perhaps the most important choice you can ever make if you truly wish to fully receive the experience of unconditional love.

Sending Light to everyone. Holding a vision that you choose to trust yourself. Please love yourself so much that it will never ever be possible to harm yourself or another. The way in which you trust yourself matters much more than you perhaps know.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be in trust.

In Light and Appreciation.

Trilby


Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.

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7 Days to Greater Intimacy

7 Days to Greater Intimacy

Ad text (2)Have you ever consciously noticed that the word intimacy begins with the letter “I” ? This is because, to experience true intimacy in life, you have to first become Intimate with yourself. Getting to know YOU, as the saying goes. This involves all of you – the good, the bad and ugly bits – so that you are left with the phenomenal unique creation and gift that is YOU!

For centuries we have been taught through cultural and religious indoctrination that the body is something unclean and it will lead you astray. Those in power knew the secret of the body connection and its sacred nature and that by propogating this beLIEf that the flesh would betray you, drove a wedge between you and your greatest and closest friend. Your Body. Sadly this misdirection of information continues today, however, thankfully with the new energy and arrival of raised consciousness, these untruths are beginning to fall away and dissolve. It’s not over yet though and YOU have a lead role to play in creating true genuine and sustainable healthy change around this. How? Well let me explain.

If you believe the premise, that everything is within you, and I do, then the very first place to start is with what you already have. Right? So what do we all have whilst we are on this planet Earth, from the time just after conception until we die and our remains are laid to rest? Yes! A human body. During a lifespan we awake and fall asleep in it every day of our life.  And yet, how well, if at all do you know your own body?

I know it has taken me many years to really understand just how my body plays a role in my life above and beyond my initial perception. Buried beneath the weight of social, gender and personal judgment of what it – my body – should look like, be like and act like – I became aware in my early twenties just how much my body actually did for me. At that age though I still did not understand exactly all that this amazing miraculous physical machine made up of muscles, bone, skin and an intricate network of nerves and organs that were all taking care of me, whilst I got on with Life. As I began to use and follow my intuition more and more, I began to have greater awareness about just how much my body actually did for me. And probably 90% of the time I was absolutely unaware of what was going on. And it was my own body.

Since then I have learned to tap into not only my own body’s innate intelligence and to hede its wealth of information, but also that of others. I am convinced that if we as a species are to experience greater bounty, health and communion not only with each other but with the rest of life on this planet, then it is imperative that we connect to this vehicle first. Why?

You life is spent in a physical body and everything you perceive – consciously and unconsciously – connects You to everything else through and in your body. It is your receptor and magically also responds and morphs in response to the frequency of your directives. These are more commonly known as your thoughts. Your body literally hears and captures everything that you ever see, feel or think.

Scientists have observed in the laboratory that when a cell is observed under a microscope, it begins to respond to the attention of the observer. A great example of this is the wonderful work done by the late Dr Masaru Emoto on water crystals. Although there is still controversy over his work, the proof is in the picture, as the microscopic photos show clearly the different imprint of certain words on the water. Simultaneously, it is a biological fact that the human body, and that of our Planet consists of 80% water. This is what is meant when said that water represents emotions. Water is a perfect conduit for vibrations and in turn the vibrations impact on the water’s molecular structure.

So when I mentioned earlier that I began to become aware of just how much my body was already doing that was beyond my conscious attention, I began to observe the relationship between how I was feeling and what was showing up in my body and also my life. This is how I know that there is a connection. But the most important connection – because it is the core and control room – is my own body and how I connect and interact with it.

As a Body-Brain Reformer, I have worked with many clients who suffer from chronic pain, whether physical or emotional. I have also worked with and through my own chronic suffering. And so I know that the key to living a happy life is within the connection that I have with my own body and the information and highly intuitive feedback system that it works on. Here we have a highly sophisticated system that interrelates between layers of consciousness, with the human brain set up as the mainframe. This is a loop system though, so the brain is capturing information from not only the body, but from the body’s light bodies and the realm of the psyche and setting up a feedback system to support the transmission of this information. It is an extremely subtle and sensitive system that has enormous potential that for the most part has gone untapped, due to limiting data programming via thought patterns chosen and that lock the energy in the body. So we need to learn how to consciously input and programme the data fed into this control centre. This is where as an individual we hold the power of choice to co-create a specific lifestyle and set of experiences.

There is no doubt that social, educational and physical entrainment can inhibit these processes and they have for the majority of us, for a long long time. Until now. There is a movement, called the Awakening. There is nothing religious about. It is a scientifically observable fact, as more photonic energy is showing up. This event is causing an unprecedented increase in vibrational energy and so time appears to move quicker, changes happen more often. If we are to ride this wave successfully and with a medium of control, then we must learn to use the tools and resources that we have at our disposition. Everything is within and it’s accessible in and via your human body. If you would like to find out what kind of body connection you can have with your body, so that you can enjoy and participate actively in the changes that are happening, then I have a challenge for you.

I am hosting the Body Connection 7 Day Challenge. This challenge is an invitation for you to explore different ways of becoming aware of and strengthening your connection between you and your body. To experience a taster of how you can create a greater intimacy with yourself. When you begin to tap into the natural profound connection that is already there and available, you will feel a sense of renewed purpose, confidence and belonging. You will feel like you have come Home!

Is this challenge for you? Do you suffer chronically, experience anxiety, stress and a sense of overwhelm or isolation, low self-esteem or are you unhappy about your body image? Or do you simply want to feel healthier and more confident in and about your body? Do you want to live a successful and fulfilled healthy sexy Life? If so, then yes this challenge is for You!

It begins 1 July 2015 NZST. Opt in now for this complimentary 7 days challenge by clicking this link http://breakthroughsavvy.com/7-day-challenge.html and you will find some more information on the page about how the challenge runs.

It’s time to network with you. In 7 days you can experience a greater Intimacy with you that will have a ripple effect in and across your whole life.

Please share this post with your friends as the more the merrier. Just think of all those Happy Healthy Bodies! 🙂

In Light
Trilby

p.s. if you have any questions please email me at trilbytheconnective@gmail.com

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Trilby D. Johnson is an Transformational Author and a body-brain reformer, whose message of self-actualization, embodiment and self-love invites people from around the world to embrace their Sovereign Authenticity as they release chronic thinking around money, health and love. She provides tools and skills for people to live a life free of pain, suffering, sadness and self-limiting beliefs and makes spiritual living practical.
Trilby is also the channel of the quantum activation tool ‘connective embodiment’ which is transferable via energy upload.
Find out more about the possibilities here – http://breakthroughsavvy.com

©Trilby D. Johnson 2015. If you do share any part of this article, please quote the author and reference this blog at http://www.connectiveharmony.com – Thank you.
How to Successfully Become Ungrateful

How to Successfully Become Ungrateful

30595594-action-word-written-with-crossing-out-the-word-talk-by-a-man-over-white-backgroundSo much is said nowadays about being grateful and it being the answer to so many problems and how it will turn your life around. I overheard a parent the other day, teaching their toddler polite etiquette – you know, say hello, what do you say when someone gives you something? – for use in their later life. I was left wondering what happens between toddler years and becoming adults and how much they still use this in their everyday life at home, at work, in relationships with friends or loved ones. I have also written many blog articles offering tips to people on how to change their lives and step into a different reality. Not very successfully, I might add. I have participated in self-development and conscious raising workshops, only to find a stubborn strain of ungrateful behaviour settled in quite comfortable and showing up as a wolf dressed in sheeps clothing. People may say or pretend that they wish to be grateful, however, as the saying goes, ‘actions speak louder than words’ and I have found both very true when it comes to an attitude and words of gratitude. So this time round, I thought I would write something to serve this permissive behaviour and offer some clear guidelines and suggestions on how to successfully become ungrateful.

  1. No civilities please
    Greeting someone when you meet them, talk to them, text or email them is so totally overated, don’t you think? Being civil, why whatever for? A big no no is using their name. Keep it impersonal. I mean who gives a stuff if the person you are interacting with actually knows that you are interacting with them or not. And whatever you want to make them feel, it is certainly not that you are honouring their presence with a simply hello. Hell no, you certainly don’t want someone else to feel good do you, especially as you don’t yourself. More often than not it’s not a good morning, afternoon, or evening anyway, so let’s just skip the good part, if not the greeting all together. I mean, it’s totally understandable that you feel insecure, grumpy, stressed – and why should you suffer alone ? Just don’t greet people!
  2. The forbidden question
    So, you’ve managed to get a conversation of some kind going – if a text and an email can be considered communication, which in today’s fast paced modern tech and sophisticated social networking world it is of course – and you are totally absorbed in getting your message across and really don’t have time for anything that doesn’t concern you directly.
    Whatever you do, remember to NOT ask the forbidden question – ‘how are you?’! And heaven forbid that if by mistake you erroneously do utter these totally insincere three words, just keep moving and don’t even wait for the answer. I mean, it’s not like you really care is it! You know you don’t actually want to hear their reply and even worse still, care about what they say or what’s showing up in their life. I mean really, you are way too busy and self-absorbed to worry about silly little things like that. And if they feel slighted, well that’s their problem not your’s. That’s what you read in a self-help book.
  3. Only when you want something
    To really fit into your role of being ungrateful successfully, be sure to only contact people when you want something from them. Ignore them the rest of the time. And then of course, remember points 1 and 2 above. You aim is to make sure that everybody you come into contact with knows without a doubt that you really don’t give a damn about them, further than they can get you what you want that is. I mean isn’t that what responsibility is about!
  4. Use texting, email or social media only
    To ensure those impersonal boundaries are respected, be sure to use text and/or email as much as possible. Again, keep in mind points 1 through 3. Isn’t the advent of texting and email such a relief. Now you get to be totally impolite, rude, aggressive, threating and abusive, without having to even worry about the recipients reaction, because you don’t have to see them hear them, or hell, even know them! Remember as attention is your most precious commodity, don’t waste it by giving your time to another person. They could misconstrue this and feel good about spending time with you and heaven forbid, good about themselves.
    Text, email, social media saves you having to make the effort of physically getting up and interacting with others, so you can still communicate with your loathsome colleagues sitting two desks away, or that horrible next door neighbour that you just cannot bare speaking to, unless as in point 3 you want something from them. And if you have to interact in person with them remember to implement all of the above points. Face to face conversation would require going against points 1 and 2 which would make your efforts to succeed at being ungrateful fail. So don’t do it. That would make you seem happy and grateful, so don’t do it.
  5. No compliments or only insults
    You know how your mother told you if you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything? Well, your mother was wrong! People just don’t like it when you compliment them. Have you noticed, they go all embarrassed. So when something good happens for them, just don’t even mention it. When something bad is happening to them, this is your chance to support them. Tell them how awful things are, what a horrible place the world is, how people are unreliable and of course add a bit of abuse as well, to make them feel good.When someone else achieves something, do not congratulate them. How dare they think they are better than everyone else. I mean, who do they think they are! So they won a prize, published a book, got married, looked really good in their new outfit, had their hair done, got good news, etc. You just can’t congratulate others because that could be mistaken as gratitude.
  6. Drive aggressively
    When you are in your car, drive aggressively! That way you scare others and make it very clear that you are coming and they need to get out the way. And of course, screeching tyres at 3am in the mornings will just show them what a dude you are. Just so it’s clear.
    If anyone dares to irritate you on the road, use aggressive language and body language to let them know that they have totally pissed you off. Courteous driving, no way!
  7. Holding doors or giving way
    Now this would be asking too much. You see that person just behind you? It would mean you actually noticing them, then taking seconds out of your totally free day, to wait and hold the door for them. And if they are of the opposite sex, then please be especially rude because they may just think you are hitting on them or supporting their sexist movement.
  8. Complain about everything
    Whatever comes across your attention span, complain about it. Find something wrong with the perfection of the setting or rising sun, the weather, your health, your body, other people, the rich, the poor. There is plenty to complain about and if you actually run out of stuff, you can always complain about not having something to complain about.

If you apply these points above diligently and with passion, or not, you will very quickly become successful in being ungrateful. Success guaranteed.

Well I could go on a bit more, however it is important for you to become expert in these points above first, if you aren’t already. If you consider yourself a spiritual person who is here to show the rest of us how it’s done, then be sure to enforce these so that the whole world gets to know that you are not a doormat and that you can proudly say that you did it your way, without any gratitude at all. After all, you carry the light and it speaks for you. I mean you are so busy working on yourself, right! As for gratitude, well it doesn’t work anyway, so why should you be the one to bother, no one else does right. You’ve got more important things to do! Like being successfully ungrateful!

So if you have gotten this far in reading this article, please know that I am being satire here. I have to mention this, just in case some people take these suggestions to heart and think I am condoning this type of behaviour. Do you recognize people you know? Or Yourself perhaps? Sometimes when we can see the behaviour play itself out and identify it, it becomes possible and easier to change it. By switching all the points above around, gratitude will be present in your daily life, not only for you but for others too. It’s time to put into practice what your parent’s instilled in you in those early years and bring it into our daily lives as we interact with others. I know its there. Buried deep perhaps, but bursting to come out. The Manners of Gratitude.

Honour the people you meet by greeting them and using their name – yes even your family/spouse and those you see every day, otherwise familiarity may breed contempt. Not a state of gratitude. Use the roads and public places with courtesy because people took the time to make this available to you.  Compliment or congratulate someone or yourselves for having done something well, whether it is something new or something they do day after day. Never mind if they could receive it or not. It’s about you.

Hello, How Are You?, Please, Thank You, After you, You are welcome – are still powerful tools for gratitude for everything and everyone showing up in your life. They are not merely words when used with consciousness. They become tools and actions for and of transformation. Now it’s up to you to perhaps find all the places and spaces within your heart and your life where you can apply them more or differently. Cause after all, talk really is cheap. Like lack of gratitude. And in the end you do pay, somewhere. Even if it’s in your lack of caring. Gratitude is living the ‘And so it is’ and bringing it into this NOW moment. It’s the present. Use it throughout the day and in all you do. Whether you consider yourself a spiritual person or not, these forms of greeting put the spirit into living. Manners of Gratitude.

Thank you and In Light
Trilby

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Trilby D. Johnson is an Author and Vibrational Integration Mentor whose message of self-actualization, embodiment and self-love invites people from around the world to embrace their Sovereign Authenticity as they release chronic thinking around money, health and love. She provides tools and skills for people to live a life free of pain, suffering, sadness and self-limiting beliefs and makes spiritual living practical.

Find out more about the possibilities here – http://breakthroughsavvy.com

©Trilby D. Johnson 2015. If you do share any part of this article, please quote the author and reference this blog at http://www.connectiveharmony.com – Thank you.
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The Invitation of Persistent Resistance

Dandelion_light_017What is the invitation of persistent resistance? Are you one of those people who gets highly irritated by the saying, “What you resist will persist.”? Well I certainly have had periods of a love-hate relationship on hearing and saying this myself, depending on which side of the resistance I was standing on at the time. I often have to chuckle when I remember Gloria Steinem’s quote, that “The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”! The irony for me of course being that the feeling of irritation is a symptom and sign of resistance in and of itself.

Now, for me resistance shows up mostly as a sensation in my body. It may be different for you, so I invite you to think about something you really are “against” and just observe if you can trace it to a place in your body. The human body is a barometer of information and is continually sending us information through our neural pathways and nervous systems to keep us up to date and ready to act. As I am primarily kinesthetic in my learning style, the signals come to me as a physical sensation or emotional feeling of resistance. Some other learning styles are visual or auditory.

For a while now I have been aware of this sensation of persisting resistance being communicated to me by my body. It baffled me because it did not make sense. By this I mean that whilst I have been choosing to experience a specific kind of lifestyle, I became aware that whenever an opportunity to experience this kind of living actually showed up, an intense feeling of resistance, if not a sense of dislike, would show up.

What really set off my alarm bell, was that I had found myself with this same kinesthetic experience in a situation which was definitely not what I was saying I desired. I was drawn to the perception that I was getting the same sensory feedback from two quite different and seemingly opposite situations. One which I enjoyed and was asking for more of, and another situation which I was choosing to move away from.

So what was the invitation? I found that the persistent niggle of sensation was there to catch my attention. It was my body’s way of letting me know that somewhere in all the mental concluding and judging and decision making, there was something that did not add up. I was out of alignment in my choosing. And so it was time to sit down and have a cup of tea with this feeling and find out what was true about this situation that was bothering me.

What I uncovered was a pattern of mixed signals. And when I took the time to look at it consciously and ask for clarity, the tangle began to unravel. The alarm was to show me that I had unconsciously collapsed the definition around “work” with two completely different meanings. Literally the sensation in the pit of my stomach was telling me that I had gotten myself into a knot.

Until I took the time to bring my awareness and conscious choosing to this knowing and get the information that was there for me, I could not be free and thus was in resistance and literally felt torn in two. That’s what happens when there are conflictual choices. Energy requires directing to move and for this it needs clear instruction. If not, it just hovers around.

To me, the invitation within the persistent resistance is …… there is something here that you need to take a look at and choose. And ……… until I take that time out and stop, breathe, listen and choose, the resistance will persist.

I came away from this experience knowing that resistance that persists is an invitation to take notice. To Be Aware. To choose. How to break through the persistence of resistance? Just keep on choosing!

May you enjoy the unfolding of your Choosing and Creation.

In Light
Trilby

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Trilby Johnson, is an Intuitive Well-Being Facilitator, Author, Radio Host and the Founder of Connective Embodiment™. Her joy and motivation is to empower others in their Authentic Self-Actualization so that people can have fulfilling and abundant lives, by giving them skills and tools to have greater choice and to choose belief systems that enrich and expand their Authentic Relating within themselves and their bodies.

Website info – http://www.beyuwellbeing.com

7 Days to Greater Intimacy

Choosing what is right for you.

So, let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to start. Who knows and can choose what is right for you? You, right! The only person on this planet that can do this for you, is none other than yourself. Of course, you can turn to others for advice and draw even on your own past experiences. However, when it comes down to it, each choice you make will impact on your life and you will be the one to deal with the consequences. People may tell you that you are oversensitive, selfish, a bore, egotistical, a trouble maker, naive, a dreamer, arrogant, etc – and perhaps they are correct – nevertheless, whatever you may or may not be, you are the only one that can choose for you.

Being in a place of confusion or indecision is probably the most uncomfortable state in which one can be. Humans tend to respond better when they have direction and as the saying goes, you have to know where you are going, to get there. This requires making a choice in the moment now, based on the influential factors in the moment of now, that will take you into the next moment of now. In other words, choice is flexible and is our greatest tool to be used every second of the day as we go along. According to most spiritual scriptures, the one thing that the Creator gave us as our greatest quality and tool was freedom of CHOICE. It is so important to consistently be choosing again and again. Why? Well, because how do you know if something works for you or not? You have to give it a go, no? Like when purchasing new clothes, or a car, a new recipe, a new relationship, a job, etc, – you will only know what it is like when you have done it. And yet many of us have been conditioned to make a choice and then stick to it FOREVER. We actually often even convince ourselves with external circumstances that we have made the right choice, even when it is blatantly apparent that this is not in our favour.

How many of us actually choose from a place of choice and choose what is right for us? The majority of us, myself included, have been entrained into erroneously believing that we are actually choosing for ourself, when in fact we are often on the default choice of the collective consciousness. Want to test this? This becomes apparent the minute we do not conform to group, ethnic, social, cultural, financial, religious and spiritual norms, when we are made to feel weird, strange, crazy or an outsider. Most of us are unconsciously so afraid of being alone, shunned, disliked, poor, being judged and not fitting in, that we “almost” happily conform to the most acceptable social and cultural behaviours, whilst in fact robbing ourselves of our own empowerment and authenticity. I say “almost” because I find that when I buy into this charade, the feeling of emptiness within increases and there is always that little niggle that something, is just not quite right that won’t go away. This entrainment is so subtle and runs through everything and as I found out recently, is probably most insidiously dangerous and retarding when one believes that they are doing it from a place of genuineness.

I give an example from my own recent experience. I found myself working in a place that pushed a lot of buttons for me. One of Life’s generous and humourous curve balls, so to speak. 🙂 As is the case when learning a new skill, there is always a final exam and I feel that Life operates in a similar way. Not to test us – this is a linear human mental concept – but rather as the law of attraction or matching vibrational frequencies denotes, to sort out what matches or not, now. It has  been a most fantastic, enriching and enlightening experience!. It was in this situation that I began to APPLY the tools I have acquired to the situations showing up. I chose to respond rather than react. Reaction cuts off the flow of creation. The changes showed up thick and fast. Perhaps the greatest change being that I no longer shied away from confrontation when it comes to being me. Once I got that most people ain’t going to like me anyway, for their own personal reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with me or that are a reflection of me, I was able to fully embrace this state of being.

What also came under fire was my beliefs of what being a spiritual person means and unveiled the default programme running in the background. For those of you who are familiar with Neuro-linguistic Programming, this technique came about because the founders wanted to find out how experts did what they did and did it well and to basically copy this. The premise is that as all information is coded into the brain, if one was able to decipher the language used to create an expert strategy, then it would be possible to extrapolate this to other areas and strategies and thus transform behaviours. And it does. What amazes me is how the mental mind compartamentalises everything. This comes about through repetition and forms what is commonly called habits. It is only when we start to undo these neural habitual pathways that we become aware that it is indeed possible to apply all data to everything. For instance, as we do one thing, so we do it all. This is one possible explanation of why when we have an issue in one area of our life that is constantly showing up, we find that the underlying cause effects all areas of our lives. We are just more aware of it in a certain areas that others. Once the limitation is removed at the root though, the effect ripples out across the whole.

So, in this instance it seemed I was keeping spirituality and money in separate compartments of my brain. What this working experience revealed to me was this limitation in my thinking. Whilst I cognitively can recognise that both of these aspects are made of energy, the judgements I had about both and in regards to myself and how I was supposed to behave as a spiritual person, well got me in a right royal bind. I had separated myself from myself and my Source of Creation. I found myself caught between a spiritual rock and a financial hard place! In spite of the fact that my awareness was showing me quite cleary that the situation was abusive in many ways and was not working for me, I had chosen to believe that I had to stick it out for some strange spiritual misconception that confrontation is a bad thing and that I had to put up with this abuse because I needed the money.

Fortunately, this got so uncomfortable that my mental compartments finally lifted and I got that I was choosing to allow myself to be abused for money. That’s a good one, no?!?! I had allowed myself to be devalued because I – yes me – had unconsciously chosen to give away my sovereign power, to money.  The second I got this clarity, my heart chakra opened and everything shifted and I was filled with a sense of relief and peace and space. Aahhhhhhhhhh.

This shift may mean that I am criticised, judged and disliked by others. That’s okay. When we choose to stand in our Light and shine, we may shine light on our darkness and that of others’. Many will not thank us for this.  However, some may experience something different because of it. How could this turn into something even greater than anything I can imagine?

I really feel that what 2012 and beyond is about is that we all fully integrate on an intrinsic and cognitive level that we are the Creators of our Lives. That Life is constantly giving us pop up screens of what it is we are creating, not to judge ourselves with and make us right or wrong, but rather so that we can experience it and then choose again. Choice offers freedom and a state of being grateful. What if choosing can be as simple as saying, thank you for that experience. Mmmhhh. Interesting. Now I would like to choose to experience this or that too. It is about grasping the essence that I am the one I have been waiting for and that no law of attraction, deity or Universe is going to give me what I desire, if I do not create it first, by claiming and demanding it. Just as I gave my power of creation away to money, I also give it away to something outside of myself when I believe that I am not my own creator. There is no separation between me and Source, because I, as well as everyone, are Sparks of the Divine. What if the sole reason for me being here at this time on Planet Earth is to BE the Divine and to know this in every cell of my body? I Am that I Am.

I hold a vision of each and every Human Being on this planet coming to full consciousness of choice in their role of the Creator of their Life and that they can stand in the greatness of their creations with ease and joy and glory. And that each and everyone knows how precious, magnificent and valuable you are. You are a gift to the world. These are such exciting times!

It is an honour to be of service.  In Light, AL-WAYS

Trilby