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Authentic Relating – the most important relationship you will ever have

by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Abundance, Alternative Therapy, Authentic, Awareness, Body, Coaching, Consciousness, I Am, Inspiration, Intuitive, Law of Attraction, Personal Development, Question, Self-Worth, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Value, Well-Being | 7 comments

Do you know how to relate authentically? No secrets here …………. it begins with YOU. The kind of relationship you have with yourself, will impact on other areas of your life. On your health, wealth, relationships, work and spirituality. For truly everything is within before it shows up without.

To create true and lasting change in one’s life and the world, the change starts with oneself. And I mean change as in stepping into or towards total, complete, all-encompassing, unconditional allowance and gratefulness for who we are, in all our complex, confusing, magnificence ….. NOW!

Awareness to what is going on, is the first step and then choosing. So what does this awareness look like and where can it be found? And once aware how can we create the change we desire ?

Whatever is going on in your life, your body, your relationships etc serves as a reflection and offers information as to what kind of vibrational frequency we are at. So, we can get information from these experiences. And from here choose consciously where we desire to travel next and what kind of an experience we are seeking to have.

Plus, there is a whole arena of vibrational frequencies that is just beyond our current level of perception. This is just how energy works. Like a radio station – you have to tune in to the exact frequency to catch the show and when you are in range you can tune in. All that static you can hear, is information that is on another frequency.

Sometimes it’s this static that draws us and that hold the new information we require to take the next step. However, how can we tune in to receive it. As Neale Donald Walsch wrote, “Your real life begins, beyond your comfort zones.”

So what’s it going take to first of all recognise those comfort zones, then know how to choose which are working for you or not, and then choose to focus on what does work?

Often we know we have to choose something different – the signs are all around – however we do not know how to. Choosing a mentor or facilitator is a great choice. I have been fortunate in my life to have received counsel and mentoring from some amazing people and the greatest gift I received was that of objectivity.

A blind spot is a specific vibrational frequency and so having a third person who is inspiring, uplifting and most importantly non-judgemental to guide me to recognising them and how to clear their electromagnetic imprint has been worth the blood, sweat and the tears – leaving space and infinite possibilities. It has given me the ability to be the Observer more and more in my life.

When we are able to stand in a place as the Observer, we are able to see all, without judgement. Meditation teaches us this – for me this is the lesson in the practice of the law of detached consciousness. It gives us the space and tools with which we can see the wood for the trees and opens up an infinite choice of possibility.

My personal journey has been one of learning to love myself 100% – the good, the bad and the ugly. I have and continue to embrace my darker side and to enjoy expanding with it more into my lighter sides. My criteria for choice today are ease and joy. Is this something you would like for you too?

What if you are the one you have been waiting for? And what if the waiting is now over? It is You and the time is NOW!

By the Light of the God I AM

I release all procrastination and indecisiveness

I acknowledge the power to create, the courage to believe

And the willingness to receive the abundance of the universe

I embrace the awareness to actualise my purpose

I release my childhood contract where I felt I had to save myself from myself and others

Now, as an enlightened being, I know that I cannot be all things to all people.

My greatest joy is living my authentic self

(Author Unknown)

Trust this inspires you to know just how valuable you are. And please don’t allow the terminology used and that perhaps doesn’t resonate with you to be a distraction that keeps you once again from authentically relating with your true Essence.

Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Metaphysical Intuitive Mentor offering realistic, practical principles to assist highly-sensitive, intuitive and conscious individuals to heal, thrive and live their desired BIG lives.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

Disclaimer: Any information shared here is not a substitute or replacement of any medical, psychological, legal or financial advice.

7 Healthier Ways To Manage Anger

by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Abundance, Be Happy, Behaviour, Decision Making, Emotions, How to accept myself for who I am, Mental Health Awareness, Mindset, Self-Actualization, Self-Worth, Success, Take action, Well-Being, Words | 0 comments

It’s possible to learn how to manage anger by understanding the energy dynamic of this emotion better and changing perspective so that there is a shift in consciousness.

Anger is usually considered an unsavoury and destructive type of emotion. In other words, unsavoury is a belief that only fuels its often volatile nature. When out of control, angry feelings can escalate into violence and destruction and so frightens us. Yet, anger is an emotion like any other. It is when this emotion is misdirected or impeded that it can build up into something explosive and be expressed in destructive ways.

Many people are uncomfortable and frightened by anger, in a large part due to how we are socialized. Today there are many anger management courses available, which can help teach people how to manage this emotion. When we attempt to stop an emotion for long enough, by suppressing or repressing it, it is like trying to stop a volcano from erupting – eventually, it will blow up.

1. Anger is primal

As I wrote in my blog Understanding Your Emotional Makeup about what an emotion is – anger is often considered one of the base emotions. So when we feel threatened or afraid, anger can often be an instinctive reaction in an attempt to safeguard ourselves.

This is often what happens when someone ‘snaps’ or ‘lashes out’. So it’s important to address our personal issues so that there are no pent up emotions that can potentially explode.

2. Anger is a secondary emotion

A secondary emotion occurs in response to something else happening first. Even those that apparently ‘fly off the handle’, there is something causing the anger. Now, this doesn’t mean it’s okay to go ballistic, be aggressive or hurt someone.

To get a handle on angry feelings, however, does require self-interrogation and perhaps some time to cool down, if necessary. The particularity about anger is that underneath this secondary feeling, is your personal power and ability to be discerning.

When you are in touch with these aspects, it makes you calmer and self-assured, less liable to allow yourself to be manipulated by others.

3. Anger can motivate you

Generally, anger arises when one of your personal values, self-worth or safety is challenged, jeopardized or disrespected. Can you remember a time when someone said something untrue about you? Did you feel angry? That angry feeling is a response to an untruth – a misalignment in the energy – and your barometer to let you know that you are not okay with what is going on. Anger can often empower you to say ‘NO’ and motivate you to take a stand and not let yourself be a doormat. When you are able to manage your anger appropriately, you have the ability to assert your rights in a way that leaves no room for doubt as to your sincerity.

4. Anger is not a sin

Often spiritual people can feel it’s wrong to be angry. As if one excludes the other. Whatever it is you want to call it doesn’t matter.

The point is to be whole and fulfilled, you are going to have to accept and allow all of yourself to be. And that means being alright with the whole spectrum of emotions. None are more important than another if you look at them as messages.

Every emotion is telling you something about yourself so that you can get to know yourself better. And in my opinion the sin lies in not embracing all of you.

5. Anger is contagious

By this I mean, that often families and social groups ‘share’ ideologies and these get passed on through education and indoctrination.

Firstly, is the anger yours? Have you asked the question? Until you ask the question you will not know. Often we are walking around with unconscious patterns playing out.

Research has shown that it is possible for us to pick up on other people’s energy and vice versa. If you know you are highly sensitive, an empath, or psychic, then asking this will save you energy and unnecessary stress. Give it a go and see if you notice a difference.

6. Transmute the anger

When you are in the grips of primal anger, the quickest way I have found to flick the switch so that you can stay discerning and express yourself appropriately is by focusing on your breathing. Stopping to take a few conscious breaths slows down the parasympathetic nervous system and so your brain stops sending fight or flight signals. I invite you to Destress, Detox, and Relax by getting your free download of my audio tool on conscious breathing.

7. Empower yourself through mentoring

If your struggling and stuck in patterns of angry behaviour, don’t hesitate to get support! It’s important to get practical skills that can help you shift your mood and fortunately today, it’s encouraged.

Often anger is a response to a feeling of hopelessness or lack of knowing how to manage something.

You are not at the mercy of your emotions and if you feel that you are, this is definitely a sign to find a mentor to help you in finding clarity and confidence. There’s always a solution and having an unbiased and professional support system is an important step in managing your angier in a healthier way.

As a species, humans have the ability to experience diverse emotions. Anger can be used as a powerful tool of discernment and also the potency to see things through. As with all emotions, it’s not only what we do when feeling them, it’s especially how we do it! When we take charge of managing and expressing our anger constructively, we will begin to find ourselves in a place where we can consider adding a dose of forgiveness.

It takes a conscious choice to manage anger in an empowering healthier way.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

Disclaimer: Any information shared here is not a substitute or replacement of any medical, psychological, legal or financial advice.

Understanding Your Emotional Makeup

by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Behaviour, Beliefs, Emotions, Freedom, Happiness, Health, Holistic, How to accept myself for who I am, Master Your Life, Mental Health Awareness, Mindset, Personal Development, Self-Actualization, Well-Being | 0 comments

As Tom Waits said, “How you do anything, is how you do everything.” And yes, this applies to our emotions too. Often, a part of the solution is understanding what it is you are working with – at lease short term. It may seem obvious but in my book, asking ‘what is an emotion?’ is a great place to start.

Although there are several theories regarding emotions, the consensus amongst psychologists is that there are six basic human emotions.

These are:

Fear
Anger
Surprise
Happiness
Sadness
Disgust

Further research by psychologist Paul Eckman showed that these emotions are innate, universal, and usually expressed through facial expressions. As children grow up these emotions will become influenced through socialization and education. The kind of emotional associations made during these informative years will have a large impact on the way anger and forgiveness are processed and managed later on in life.

On the surface, emotions may seem a given and therefore straightforward. Yet a study conducted in 2007 by Hockenbury showed that there is more to each emotion than initially thought. An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components:

A subjective experience
A physiological response
A behavioural or expressive response.

This psychological observation is important when wanting to change an emotion and create a new emotional response and association. Each of these components needs to be addressed effectively, separately. Missing any of these steps leads to emotional incongruency and could explain why people often feel at the mercy of their emotions and struggle to detach.

Humans are extremely complex in their emotional makeup because there are layers and triggers of all kinds involved. From very young, we are indoctrinated about what each emotion means, and we are told when and how it is or isn’t appropriate to feel that way. The lines are drawn and we are expected to operate within them.

Although there are these common agreements, the subjective component is always at play. Each emotion is experienced individually in a myriad of ways and intensities. Think of a few different times when you felt angry. Was your feeling of anger the same each time? What made you angry each time? Was the way you dealt with your anger the same each time? I am guessing that the answer is probably no.

Depending on how you were raised and how other people like parents, teachers, friends, siblings, partners, spouses etc. responded and encouraged or discouraged you, you may or may not feel more at ease with some of your emotions than others. If emotions are mismanaged, this can lead to suppressed or repressed feelings and erratic behaviour. It is impossible to not feel your emotions. How you behave when feeling these emotions and the response this evoked from others will leave a lasting impression.

An important element here is that most behaviour is learned and influenced by the current social and cultural norms. It is founded mostly in judgmental concepts of polarity like good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. This is the cognitive conditioning that most people use to make their choices. But what about what you are feeling about your emotions? What do you feel about anger and forgiveness for instance?

Immediately one can be struck by the desirability of one more than the other, is this not so? It’s okay to feel forgiveness and not okay to feel anger. This puts us in a position of feeling that we have to choose the more favourable option, in spite of our feelings, which are also valid. One thing is certain though and shown scientifically, everything is energy and energy cannot be destroyed. So how is it possible to turn one emotion, like anger, into another emotion, like forgiveness. The answer is quite simply, you cannot! You can, however, transmute the energy of an emotion, which allows the feeling to dissipate in a healthy and conscious way.

Everything in the Universe emits a specific energy frequency. Anger and forgiveness each exist on two specific and different frequencies and on two different spectrums. To move efficiently and effectively between these different levels requires identifying or establishing a common denominator. Do you know what that is?

You!

You are always the common aspect in your life with the ability to align as you choose and process your thoughts and emotions. This requires being present in each emotion and developing your awareness of what the meaning is for you. Your emotions are your personal GPS system. Don’t let them lead you astray and allow them to control you!

Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Healer and Mentor, Best-Selling Author and Speaker who assists her clients to alleviate anxiety, relieve physio-emotional pain and reduce stress levels in their lives, relationships, finances, health, mindset and soul energetics and increase inner harmony and outer balance.

To explore your options for a shift in awareness and to experience breakthrough, book in with Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment

Disclaimer: Any information shared here is not a substitute or replacement of any medical, psychological, legal or financial advice.

Can Meditation Help Cure Mental Health?

by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Behaviour, Beliefs, Health, How to accept myself for who I am, Meditation, Mental Health Awareness, Mindset, Self-Actualization, Well-Being | 0 comments

You may call me a dreamer… am I the only one?

I generally don’t feel comfortable making guarantees when it comes to cures. I am 100% confident, however, that anything is possible when you are open to alternatives and focused on solutions. And in this case, I have a personal track record of success and a sound knowledge base to draw upon.

Meditation is one of the most accessible and straightforward tools that I know of that does both; offering a well-being alternative and providing a solution, while still being complementary to the majority of treatments and modalities. It does take practise and an open mind to perfect however… and that’s when the fun and improvement can really begin!

According to the medical definition of meditation on thefreedictionary.com, “Meditation is a practice of concentrated focus upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, movement, or attention itself in order to increase awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enhance personal and spiritual growth.”

So, that’s already quite a lot of benefits, don’t you think?

Even today, many of Western culture perceive meditation as doing nothing, wasting time that they believe they don’t have, something that is too woo-woo for them to do, or it’s some kind of a cult. And while it may have its roots in more spiritual doctrines and more modernly within the concept of mindfulness, meditation is very much a practical non-secular tool, that can and does support a sense of an easier and more fulfilled life in the real and busy world of today. It’s definitely, in my opinion, worth finding the time for.

“Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.” – Saint Francis de Sales

I feel meditation is a type of ‘Feng-Shui’ for the body, mind, and soul.

It helps to create a peaceful, calm and beneficial balance that creates a harmonious environment on the inside and outside. Many people only think of their health from a physical aspect. However, research now shows the link between body and mind. Consequently, it’s important to find a healthy ‘all-in-one’ body-mind-soul balance. Like meditation for instance!

The wonder of meditation, in my experience, is that it hones your focus inwards, and shuts out the distractions and business of outside world, often affording the body to still and experience a deep state of relaxation and awareness.

It’s an opportunity to experience and understand what the ‘no-thing’ is, and gives the brain a “timeout” actually allowing it to organise and integrate all of those daily thoughts.

It can also result in major improvements in people’s health, moods, vitality, and ability to heal. Not bad for ‘no-thing’ happening right? Quite the contrary, in fact!

Medical research recognizes stress as a major contributor, in some way or another, to most major modern diseases and mental health issues. Consequently, when you learn to contain, reduce and even eliminate the negative impact of stress in your life, this enables you to live healthier and calmer, physically and mentally.

In addition to the benefits already mentioned, regular meditation as a stand-alone practise offers extensive ways to improve and cultivate healing of the body, mind and soul in the following ways:

improved memory and concentration.
better and more positive moods.
optimal immune system function.
reduced blood pressure.
better sleep and quality of sleep.
increased creativity.
soothes mental and emotional processes.
affords the time for deeper subliminal integration of physical and mental processes.
ability to visualise.
less stress and more physical and emotional calmness.
physical improvement of symptoms of fibromyalgia and psoriasis, HIV, etc.
less reactive both mentally and emotionally.
deepens your connection to yourself and intuition.
relaxes, rejuvenates, and tones body and mind.
enables easier access to deeper personal wisdom.
activates an expansion of consciousness… and much more.

The paradox about meditation is that the experience itself is a state that lies beyond the linear mind. So, when it comes to healing or improving mental health, it’s important to not enter into meditation pushing towards getting over the issue at hand. Instead, enter a space of mindfulness and observing what is already there, without trying to change it… and then allow other possibilities to manifest.

Using the technique of visualisation, in this case, can be beneficial, as you are meditating with the awareness, images, and sensations of being healthy. This practice floods the subconscious with positive vibes of good health and well-being. The brain also has the time to only focus on one thing at a time and assesses everything as if it is happens. The ability to experience strong positive health and well-being, objectively, in a meditative state, is extremely powerful and the body and mind responds positively and organically.

A word of caution, however, when it comes to curing disease and the notion of healing. As humans, we have a physical body and usually focus on this more than the more invisible aspects of the psyche, emotions, and the soul. The ego-mind will have an image of what the resulting ‘cure’ looks like. However, on a soul-level, the solution that is ‘the cure’, can be quite a different kettle of fish, and also beyond any limits set by physical parameters. And sometimes, in the grand scheme of things, a cure does come in the form of death, when the body and soul are released from the dis-ease and physical, mental, and emotional pain.

Meditation is very effective in helping the ill to transition gracefully with the mental strength to accept their fate, making the transition more peaceful for all parties concerned, proving to be a calming force also when dealing with grief.

Meditation, in my experience, is about cultivating what I call the art of conscious detachment. It does so in a way that allows you to cure yourself of the burden of judgement and polarity thinking – regardless if something is right/wrong, good/bad, healthy/unhealthy etc. – living the experience fully and richly, whatever it may be. It’s what can make all the difference when it comes to living a great life, simply because it’s the one we have been given and we have the wisdom to know the difference.

You may call me a dreamer, and I’m not the only one! Meditation has helped me improve and fortify my mental health around issues of imperfection, impatience, and not feeling enough, time and time again, helping me become stronger, calmer, healthier and happier.

It has shown me that in the ‘no-thing’ there is ‘wholeness.’ That there is always a solution and cure – more often than not, it comes down to gaining access. In more ways than even acknowledged today by mainstream media, meditation can offer access to a world of infinite possibilities and well-being.

Don’t be led astray by misleading information and give it a go for yourself. As long-term meditation teaches, practise is perfection. And from where I stand, as far as cures go, that’s priceless and a valuable return on investment in your health and well-being. If it wasn’t for a long practice of meditation in my life, I would probably not have overcome my own mental health issues and be here to write about this amazing and natural ability.

Could meditation be a cure to mental health? Even if you don’t like the word – call it whatever you want, but give it a go for a while. Then you decide!

Here’s to your health and healing.

p.s. If you’re looking for a meditation audio to support your mental health, why not try this one I did -> I AM Alighment Meditation

Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Medical Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck in body, mind, emotion and soul and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists in creating new energetic pathways that empowers and assists in resolving core issues.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready for breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

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5 Ways To Free Yourself From Emotional Rollercoasters

by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Be Happy, Beliefs, Decision Making, Emotions, Freedom, Happiness, Health, How to accept myself for who I am, Mindset, Self-Actualization, Self-Worth, Spirituality, Success, Well-Being | 0 comments

Emotions are very much a part of our daily lives and are deemed to be what distinguishes us from other ‘animals.’ Yet they can also be what trips us up again and again, as long as we are slaves to them, rather than their master. For much of my life, I was on a series of distressful emotional roller-coasters that eventually resulted in mental and emotional health issues. Long-term these impacted on my relationships, jobs, finances, health and mindset. Until one day, over feeling miserable and broken, I said, ‘No More.’

To change, I sought out information and professionals to help me acquire the skills I needed and that I hadn’t received while growing up. I was thirsty for knowledge and wanted to learn how to be happy without feeling like life was an emotional roller-coaster that was out of control.

Here are 5 Ways to be Free of Emotional Roller-Coasters that I Found to Work:

1. Keep Off the Ride:

This may seem obvious and yet it’s often overlooked. It’s important to know what pushes your buttons and to then manage situations and people you allow into your life. How often do you get that little niggle inside and you ignore it? This is where the roller coaster ride begins – when we don’t heed that inner knowing of what is and isn’t good for us. This often occurs as we are afraid of being judged, failing, not fitting in or being wrong.

It’s important to notice and acknowledge all emotions, whether they are considered good or bad. They are messengers of the programmes playing out in our heads and which we are often indoctrinated into as we grow up, through parents, society, culture, and religion.

Get to know and manage your own personal emotional states, which will mean that you can make more informed decisions and be able to manage yourself with more confidence.

2. Meditate on A Regular Basis:

Meditation is a great preventative measure when done on a regular basis, as it helps the brain to actually have the time to organize information with you aware. Practised regularly, this helps diffuse and process volatile emotional energies before they get out of control.

Contrary to what many may believe or have been instructed, I found attempting to meditate when you are in the throes of strong emotions is futile. It’s like blowing on a fire that is already out of control in an attempt to put it out. Don’t try to meditate when you are on an emotional roller-coaster as this can feel like things are actually getting worse!

Wait until you are feeling calmer before you sit down to meditation.

Meditation helps to install a practise of being able to respond more calmly and mindfully to daily events.

3. Count to 10:

Ever heard Grandma say this? Well, she was definitely wise and onto something. It’s always wise to avoid taking action or making decisions when on an emotional roller-coaster. We have all experienced the damage one can do when under strong emotion and the regret that follows.

Emotions, especially strong ones, can swamp the brain, as it becomes flooded with physical reactions and then the brain is challenged on which reaction to prioritise. When stopping to count to 10, this gives the body a short lapse of time that opens a window in the brain, to move from flight and fight to more logical processing.

4. Stop and Breathe:

This simple yet powerful tool continues to be underused. When I say ‘take a breath’ to clients they laugh or make some cryptic comment – at least at first. And yet, stopping to take a breath changes everything.

Firstly, the act of stopping stops you. Use the previous point of counting to 10 to help you stop. Do this physically – pull over in the car, leave the room, stand up if sitting or sit down if standing. Change your physical stance.

Next, focus on taking a big conscious breath. Take several until you feel something shift. If the emotions begin to bubble up again, acknowledge them and make a conscious decision to deal with them at a later time once you are calmer and can think straight.

The mind is a great selection tool when calm and clear and not clouded by strong emotions. A clear head allows you to make a more informed choice and choose how to behave appropriately. Stopping and breathing will give you the time to choose.

The more often you practise stopping to take a conscious breath, the more you will unlock your secret weapon to stress release. I invite you to access my free audio DESTRESS DETOX RELAX now.

5. Learn Empowering Life Skills:

Hire a mentor or coach to learn the life skills you are missing. Most of us have not be taught how to manage our emotions in healthy ways and so we keep on repeating the same behavioural patterns. Until we replace the pattern with something new and different. If you struggle with emotional overwhelm often, there is no shame in seeking out support.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” well, neither was your emotional make-up.

Here are A Few Examples on How to Slowly Increase New Life Skills:

Read a wide range of articles on emotional intelligence and techniques.
Keep a journal of your own emotions and write about them – putting things down on paper is very empowering and it also keeps you accountable.
Make friends with your emotions – it’s easier to install change in a friendly environment.
Talk to other people and listen to their stories – it helps give a bigger picture.

As humans, we love to have meaning in our life… to feel the thrill… which can sometimes be found while on roller-coasters.

It’s not everyone’s cup of tea though, and especially if you end up feeling derailed emotionally most of the time.

Life is not meant to lived as a constant roller-coaster ride, at least in my opinion; it’s meant more to be about gentle rises and falls and ebbs and flows. The above suggestions can help in learning to master emotions in ways that are healthy and beneficial to you and those around you, so that there’s more freedom and enjoyment rather than drama at the expense of one’s sanity and well-being.

– Trilby

Trilby Johnson is a Breakthrough Mentor and Intuitive, Best-Selling Author and Speaker. Her clients hire her to stop struggling and feeling stuck and move beyond limitation into wisdom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health, mindset and soul connection. Trilby assists them in creating and experiencing new energetic pathways that lead to breakthrough and beyond.

Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Assessment if you are ready to breakthrough beyond limitation into wisdom!

Disclaimer: Any information shared here is not a substitute or replacement of any medical, psychological, legal or financial advice.