The Compartmentalization of LOVE and what this can mean for you

The Compartmentalization of LOVE and what this can mean for you

actionbeingThe human mind and how exactly it functions is still very much a mystery today, even to scientists and those of us alive and living this experience of Life. Where does it begin and where does it end and what role does it play in our daily existence? Many theories and philosophies have been and continue to be put forward as to its origin, essence and functioning. Perhaps an even greater mystery however, is that of the human heart and its role in our human experience and emotions.

Thanks to recent research and advanced modern technology, researchers have been able to determine and monitor that the heart itself emits a distinct frequency of its own and that this frequency emission occurs prior to the brains perception of sensory information. This is called the ‘torus or toroidal field’. It is most interesting to note that the auric torus field around the body has its centre in the heart and that it also emits the strongest electromagnetic field (#EMF) in the body. The torus field is found around every atom’s nucleus, and in every cell of the body is found in the DNA spiral helix ‘receiver’. These findings are changing the way in which we view not only how we as humans function, they also present an array of greater possibilities and insights into the way we can live our lives. This goes way beyond what has previously been believed about human’s abilities to think and feel and adds a most interesting perspective to the myriad ways in which we view and experience the aspect of Love.

For many of us, over the past few year’s there has been a very distinctive shift in consciousness, as we have intuitively become more aware of this heart frequency field. Whilst the way this showed up may not seem like anything to do with love – global chaos, breakdown in relationships, business loss, more outbreaks of war, financial challenges, lack of reference points, methods no longer work, etc – there does seem to be an underlying common aspect of transparency that is coming to light. Perhaps the most challenging current aspect so many of us face today, is having the skills in ‘how’ to listen and act upon this frequency in such a way as to enrich our existence further and to step into a state of thriving and release the notions of surviving and striving. To move beyond the illusions of the world reality we know today, on personal and social levels. To embrace a level of personal self-actualization, whilst keeping in mind that as an individual, we are a part of the current society. It behooves us to focus most diligently and lovingly on our own personal journey of self-actualization. Why? Because, in my opinion and in conjunction with the workings of the torus field, the key to a fulfilling and joy filled existence is in choosing with consciousness, to operate from this frequency of Love. Could it be that this IS a hidden Knowing within our very make-up, written in our very DNA – that true unconditional guidance comes from and through the Heart?

Writings about Love and its virtues have been around since the beginnings of time and it continues to fascinate and allure so many today. Yet for so many true Love continues to remain elusive and the experience of only an alloted few. I feel this has to do with the way in which Love is viewed and defined in the group consciousness. There are many kinds of Love and everyone’s experience will differ, according to their personal stories, sensitivities and awareness. For the purpose of this article, the focus is on Self-Love, because in my observation and personal journey, it really is the one Love relationship that nurtures all others and through which all others are experienced. It is the aligning factor in our personal empowerment and autonomy.

The notion of Love and what it is, has been fed to us through social, religious, cultural, political, sexual, gender, familial and spiritual ideologies and philosophies for so long and so subtly that very few of us actually stop at all to ponder what the definition is. The power of the hypnotic entrainment hidden within this one word – the implicit belief and value systems that are so deeply entrenched in the group psyche and their effect – is not to be underestimated. I feel that the symptoms of this hidden agenda can be found in the confusion so many of us feel when it comes to the concept of Love – evidenced in our self- and personal-relationships. Why is it that so many of us do not feel loved or loving, despite holding the trappings of success that this reality decrees as truth? As long as you continue to buy into the commonly held definition and belief system of what love is or supposed to be without stopping to ask if the definition and subsequent belief system is true for you, then you will be unconsciously perpetuating the illusion of separation. And the only way in which this can change is through each of us taking a look at ourselves and then understanding how the energy of love works, so that we can operate from a place of conscious choice, when it comes to what matters most for us.

So how does this energy of love operate? My understanding and growing experience of this frequency called love, is that it really is unconditional. As is all energy mind you! However, there are frequencies and frequencies from which to choose. Everything in the Universe is currently experiencing a rise in vibrational frequency. There is an ongoing debate amongst researchers and authors as to what the actual hertz frequency of love is, as even here different definitions and thus belief systems are at play and providing interesting points of view. I personally feel that when one is in the presence of love, there is no doubt, nor words, which is in and of itself a challenge for the human mind. The human mind has been trained throughout social evolution to cognitively compartmentalize ideas, concepts, emotions, thoughts, behaviours. In other words, to make ‘reality’ fit! The Love energy does not operate along these linear and conceptual lines, despite all of mankind’s manipulation to make it appear so. Thus the concept of unconditional love. So what does this mean for you?

1. Drop all judgment
The biggest killer today is judgment. I am not talking about the kind of judgment which pertains to the purely cognitive processing of data. I am referring to the polarity based thought-forms that are instigate and rife on this planet. That creates the illusion of separation – even in love. Romantic love is a good example. How? This concept feeds the notion that we are separate. Not only as an individual but also within ourselves. That we can only be fulfilled when we have found our opposite! Then the true definition of what an opposite is, has been deliberately tampered with. When coming from a place of polarity there is never a winner. Not long-term. Because there will always be division. This is a distraction to lead us away from the fact that we are already One. Within Your-Self you are One. The vital life force that animates us all, is the same Source. Everything is already within each of us. The feminine and masculine aspects. Jung’s work highlighted this, although the cultural and professional context in which his work was presented, distorted his work to fit the accepted version of reality. So whilst there are gender differences, each gender holds within the whole!

As long as you are judging any part of you, you are in polarity thinking and divided within yourself. There is no division in love. It accepts everything as it is, whilst maintaining its unique resonence frequency. When you hold yourself in this particular frequency and make a choice from that space and place, there is no separation. And how will you know? Because you will have a sense of wholeness and completion.

2. Accepting what is
Byron Katie speaks of this in her work. What I love about Byron Katie, is her untiring drive for what I consider spiritual practicality. This suits me too, because we are after all faced with physical requirements here on this Earth plane. Allowing is for me a form of receiving which honours what is. To me it feels like that meditative state of knowing that there is an observer to all that transpires. There is no need to silence the mind, for it has its role to play. There is no need to choose between this or that, for there is the knowing that I am not that. There is the peace that comes with taking respons-ability for what is in my life now and then consciously choosing which step to take next and the direction.

A common belief is that giving is better than receiving. Really? For many years there was an incongruency around this energy dynamic for me. When I looked at who was stating this information as fact it made sense. All those organizations that stood to profit financially from people’s sense of guilt. Guilt, like many emotions, is based in limited thinking. It is time to re-cognize that the Universe is abundant. Just look at Nature to see this and also please acknowledge that you are a part of this Nature. Whist there is an order within Nature there is no judgment. There is a natural gifting just because!

The Universe is set-up to give you whatever you ask for. How do you ‘ask’? By means of your dominant vibration. So are you willing to accept that the Universe is abundant and simply desires to deliver unto you that which you ask for? When you compartmentalize your energy into good/bad, right/wrong, black/white you create a mixed signal. And the Universe responds. When you accept whatever it is, as it is and embrace it with love, there literally are no limitations. And the Universe responds.

3. Loving it all
Love does not discriminate between good and bad energy. To do so would require judgment. Love knows no taboos, yet respects all choices. Love is beyond belief systems, which are all creations of the mind. You cannot love some parts of yourself and not others and expect to experience wholeness. What you will experience is fragmentation. This is what is meant by the shadow-self. Not that this is good or bad. It simply is.

For many years, in my endeavour to move out of suffering and to be positive, I denied many emotions like fear, anger, anxiety, sadness, hatred etc. because they were labelled as ‘negative’. On a vibrational level, what this now means to me, is that these are heavier frequencies. And I feel it straight away when I pick up on them. With the exception that now I welcome them in, firmly balanced in the frequency of love. My version admittedly, however the transformation that occurs is undeniable. How do I know? Because I feel it with every fibre of my being.

4. Let your body be your guide
Your physical body is the greatest sensory computer available to you. It is constantly giving you information and feedback as to what is going on around you, so that you can choose what experience you desire to have next. So many people think of their body as a ‘thing’. I am still amazed at how cut off people can be from the living organism in which they live daily. I feel that much of the obsession with sex is a side effect of this sense of disconnection. For centuries the human body has been literally buried alive under judgment fueled by religions and cultural beliefs, in many ways fueling this dis-ease around the human body. Etiquette was established to define where and how it was acceptable to enjoy one’s physicality and anything outside of this was judged as depraved or a sin.

The body remembers everything. And not only from one lifetime. Cellular memory can be passed down from generation to generation through blood lines and DNA, if it remains hidden in the subconscious and is not transmuted. What I particularly love about bodies though and working with them, is that they never lie. Just like energy! What a coincidence, n’est pas. 🙂

Whilst your human body is very much programmed and designed to be in service to you, the vehicle for your Soul during your Earthly adventure, it does have an innate state of self-preservation. And thank goodness I say. When the balance between the human mind and the body consciousness drops out of alignment, energy begins to collect and creates a dis-ease. This can show up as a mental physical manifestation, like depression or anxiety. Or it can show up as a physical manifestation in the form of a physical misalignment, like cancer, pain, arthritis, etc.

So then in regard to the torus field, when you do not listen to your body, you are ignoring and impeding your Heart’s Knowing – connected to a far greater source of pure information than your brain – from enriching your human physical experience and its connection to universal energy.

So what is the value of compartmentalizing Love, or anything else for that matter? Just as a positive will cancel out a negative, so a higher frequency will entrain lower vibrational frequencies to accelerate and escalate their vibration in an ascending movement. So lower density energies are invited to move to a higher frequency. This is the reason that when you find yourself in the presence of true unconditional love, there will be no doubt in your mind. Because you will have become mind-less and heart-filled.

When you take action to consciously choose the space of frequency from which you desire to operate from, there is a huge shift. The Universe is a living and intelligent Energy Source that captures absolutely everything and responds accordingly. It takes an effort of your will, i.e. action to choose your thoughts. This will then impact and influence your behaviour, i.e. your doing. This will then be held within your YOU-nique vibrational frequency that you emit, i.e. your being. This is similar to being able to observe the ripple and the effect as separate yet the same movement. Just as when a pebble is thrown into a pond, this action creates the movement in the water, that sets the stage for the water to change it’s surface tension.

In conclusion, I invite you to please claim to know that everything is already within you. You come from Love because this is at your essence, as Source. You are already Love! I invite you to choose to step out from this space of Knowing and watch how you change the world as you step into a Beingness that goes way beyond your current identity and personality. As Gandi said, ‘Be the change that you wish to see in the world!‘. This is about expansion, not about contraction, which compartmentalization is. The mind will never fully understand what the heart knows, however, it can be useful in it’s appropriate role and function. That is, to instigate the action required in this physical existence, after all information has been aligned with and from unfetted and unconditional Love.

May you enjoy the unfolding and expansion of your creations.
In Light.

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Easy Peezy Bright and Breezy

Easy Peezy Bright and Breezy

mystical-mushrooms_5554What would an easy peezy bright and breezy Life look like?

In a recent radio interview with Linda Irwin of Unseen World, the issue of self-love, simplicity and receiving came up. Linda drew on several quotations from my new e-booka-Ha – insight inspiration question” and if there is a main theme to this book it is to offer suggestions of different possibilities and choices for Living and Well-Being.

More and more I am choosing to experience Life as truly simple. It is our ego mind that adds the drama and trauma to our idea of Living. Intensity seems to have become equated with validity, whereas simplicity is considered as easy peezy bright and breezy…….. or in other words ……….. BORING! And no one wants to be bored or considered boring, right?

I used to think that the more dysfunctional a relationship was, the more real it was. Because it was intense!! Just like a soap opera. Until I actually began to get bored by the repeated intensity of all my relationships. And one day I woke up and asked myself to find another way to Living that is fulfilling and peaceful and not endlessly depleting.

Whilst most people feel impelled to find an answer for any and all questions – the brain has become hardwired to function this way over the centuries – what if asking the correct question can unlock pandora’s box? And would you want to go there?

They say that the truth is often hidden in plain sight. This is the reason why simplicity is required. How do you simplify things? First, you stop whatever you are doing and shift your awareness to your breathing. Our breathing is so simple that we take it completely for granted and yet it – above all else – keeps us alive in our body. Just begin to give more and more attention to how you breathe – without attempting to change anything. Become aware of how this simple small shift in focus, leads to more space …….. and perhaps in the quiet you begin to notice and sense the magic that is continuously unfolding, just beyond the perimeter of you current awareness. When you transmute the energy by consciously choosing your thoughts, your can discover the magical secrets of pandora’s box.

When you ask a question and stop to allow and receive the influx of information without judgement, there is a mental door that opens up during the pause, offering a world of possibilities to choose from. It happens in a split milli-second and most of us are too busy to even notice it there. And our cognitive programming is such that in its efficiency to support us, our physical brain has programmed these habits into our neurological make-up. Very efficient, but perhaps no longer practical and applicable. It is time to outgrow the habit ….. and this requires conscious input of new data. So if you are feeling bored by simplicity, open the door named boredom and take a closer look. You may find there is more to boredom than you first thought or perceived.

Life can be challenging and we can find ourselves in difficult situations, so I am not being flippant when I talk about a life that is easy peezy bright and breezy. Rather I am inviting you to stop and connect to your power of creation and look for the simplicity. If you are vibrating on a frequency of simplicity, then you will attract all the simplicity that the Universe has to offer – Law of Attraction. The truth is quite literally under your nose ……. YOUrself!

May you enjoy and have fun with the unfolding of your Creations.

In Light.


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Well-Being, O’Well-Being, wherefore art thou?

Well-Being, O’Well-Being, wherefore art thou?

stressfreezoneThe dictionary defines well-being (noun) as: “A contented state of being happy and healthy and prosperous.” I feel that this sums up our general aspirations for living. It certainly sounds great to me and really, who wouldn’t want this or something greater for themselves?

What I love about the word ‘well-being’ is the way it drips droplets of all-rounded wholeness of BEING. I can feel the happiness, the health and the prosperity.  It is such a holistic word, and hidden within its semantic vibration all that is mental, physical, emotional and spiritual, it goes a long way to tick the boxes in the schools of Gestalt, Chinese Medicine, Meditation, Yoga and many more of the alternative healing therapies.  It’s a word that personifies balanced harmony!

Who am I to be talking about well-being anyway? I am a traveller on the road of life just like you, undergoing my own awakening. I am a Woman, a Daughter, a Lover, a Goddess, an Intuitive Well-Being Facilitator and Divine Love in Physical Form. In my role as a Facilitator, I draw from my own personal experiences to weave together the information required and re-membered to align these aspects of the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual, for myself and others. As Eric Pearle states, “It is through healing others that we heal ourselves”.

Please also know that the notion of “healing” in no way implies that something is wrong. However, many have forgotten their true potency and greatness. There is a thread that runs through everything, weaving it together. For example, is not happiness said to be a state of mind? If so, then does not this cultivate health – both physical and mental? And is not your health your wealth? All is intricately interwoven and moving in synergy towards optimal integration and Well Being.

When you are WELL in your BEING, everything FLOWS! And you are BEING YOU in your entirety. Now, doesn’t that feel good and for what reason would you not want more of this yummyness?

In Light.


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Choosing what is right for you.

Choosing what is right for you.

So, let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to start. Who knows and can choose what is right for you? You, right! The only person on this planet that can do this for you, is none other than yourself. Of course, you can turn to others for advice and draw even on your own past experiences. However, when it comes down to it, each choice you make will impact on your life and you will be the one to deal with the consequences. People may tell you that you are oversensitive, selfish, a bore, egotistical, a trouble maker, naive, a dreamer, arrogant, etc – and perhaps they are correct – nevertheless, whatever you may or may not be, you are the only one that can choose for you.

Being in a place of confusion or indecision is probably the most uncomfortable state in which one can be. Humans tend to respond better when they have direction and as the saying goes, you have to know where you are going, to get there. This requires making a choice in the moment now, based on the influential factors in the moment of now, that will take you into the next moment of now. In other words, choice is flexible and is our greatest tool to be used every second of the day as we go along. According to most spiritual scriptures, the one thing that the Creator gave us as our greatest quality and tool was freedom of CHOICE. It is so important to consistently be choosing again and again. Why? Well, because how do you know if something works for you or not? You have to give it a go, no? Like when purchasing new clothes, or a car, a new recipe, a new relationship, a job, etc, – you will only know what it is like when you have done it. And yet many of us have been conditioned to make a choice and then stick to it FOREVER. We actually often even convince ourselves with external circumstances that we have made the right choice, even when it is blatantly apparent that this is not in our favour.

How many of us actually choose from a place of choice and choose what is right for us? The majority of us, myself included, have been entrained into erroneously believing that we are actually choosing for ourself, when in fact we are often on the default choice of the collective consciousness. Want to test this? This becomes apparent the minute we do not conform to group, ethnic, social, cultural, financial, religious and spiritual norms, when we are made to feel weird, strange, crazy or an outsider. Most of us are unconsciously so afraid of being alone, shunned, disliked, poor, being judged and not fitting in, that we “almost” happily conform to the most acceptable social and cultural behaviours, whilst in fact robbing ourselves of our own empowerment and authenticity. I say “almost” because I find that when I buy into this charade, the feeling of emptiness within increases and there is always that little niggle that something, is just not quite right that won’t go away. This entrainment is so subtle and runs through everything and as I found out recently, is probably most insidiously dangerous and retarding when one believes that they are doing it from a place of genuineness.

I give an example from my own recent experience. I found myself working in a place that pushed a lot of buttons for me. One of Life’s generous and humourous curve balls, so to speak. 🙂 As is the case when learning a new skill, there is always a final exam and I feel that Life operates in a similar way. Not to test us – this is a linear human mental concept – but rather as the law of attraction or matching vibrational frequencies denotes, to sort out what matches or not, now. It has  been a most fantastic, enriching and enlightening experience!. It was in this situation that I began to APPLY the tools I have acquired to the situations showing up. I chose to respond rather than react. Reaction cuts off the flow of creation. The changes showed up thick and fast. Perhaps the greatest change being that I no longer shied away from confrontation when it comes to being me. Once I got that most people ain’t going to like me anyway, for their own personal reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with me or that are a reflection of me, I was able to fully embrace this state of being.

What also came under fire was my beliefs of what being a spiritual person means and unveiled the default programme running in the background. For those of you who are familiar with Neuro-linguistic Programming, this technique came about because the founders wanted to find out how experts did what they did and did it well and to basically copy this. The premise is that as all information is coded into the brain, if one was able to decipher the language used to create an expert strategy, then it would be possible to extrapolate this to other areas and strategies and thus transform behaviours. And it does. What amazes me is how the mental mind compartamentalises everything. This comes about through repetition and forms what is commonly called habits. It is only when we start to undo these neural habitual pathways that we become aware that it is indeed possible to apply all data to everything. For instance, as we do one thing, so we do it all. This is one possible explanation of why when we have an issue in one area of our life that is constantly showing up, we find that the underlying cause effects all areas of our lives. We are just more aware of it in a certain areas that others. Once the limitation is removed at the root though, the effect ripples out across the whole.

So, in this instance it seemed I was keeping spirituality and money in separate compartments of my brain. What this working experience revealed to me was this limitation in my thinking. Whilst I cognitively can recognise that both of these aspects are made of energy, the judgements I had about both and in regards to myself and how I was supposed to behave as a spiritual person, well got me in a right royal bind. I had separated myself from myself and my Source of Creation. I found myself caught between a spiritual rock and a financial hard place! In spite of the fact that my awareness was showing me quite cleary that the situation was abusive in many ways and was not working for me, I had chosen to believe that I had to stick it out for some strange spiritual misconception that confrontation is a bad thing and that I had to put up with this abuse because I needed the money.

Fortunately, this got so uncomfortable that my mental compartments finally lifted and I got that I was choosing to allow myself to be abused for money. That’s a good one, no?!?! I had allowed myself to be devalued because I – yes me – had unconsciously chosen to give away my sovereign power, to money.  The second I got this clarity, my heart chakra opened and everything shifted and I was filled with a sense of relief and peace and space. Aahhhhhhhhhh.

This shift may mean that I am criticised, judged and disliked by others. That’s okay. When we choose to stand in our Light and shine, we may shine light on our darkness and that of others’. Many will not thank us for this.  However, some may experience something different because of it. How could this turn into something even greater than anything I can imagine?

I really feel that what 2012 and beyond is about is that we all fully integrate on an intrinsic and cognitive level that we are the Creators of our Lives. That Life is constantly giving us pop up screens of what it is we are creating, not to judge ourselves with and make us right or wrong, but rather so that we can experience it and then choose again. Choice offers freedom and a state of being grateful. What if choosing can be as simple as saying, thank you for that experience. Mmmhhh. Interesting. Now I would like to choose to experience this or that too. It is about grasping the essence that I am the one I have been waiting for and that no law of attraction, deity or Universe is going to give me what I desire, if I do not create it first, by claiming and demanding it. Just as I gave my power of creation away to money, I also give it away to something outside of myself when I believe that I am not my own creator. There is no separation between me and Source, because I, as well as everyone, are Sparks of the Divine. What if the sole reason for me being here at this time on Planet Earth is to BE the Divine and to know this in every cell of my body? I Am that I Am.

I hold a vision of each and every Human Being on this planet coming to full consciousness of choice in their role of the Creator of their Life and that they can stand in the greatness of their creations with ease and joy and glory. And that each and everyone knows how precious, magnificent and valuable you are. You are a gift to the world. These are such exciting times!

It is an honour to be of service.  In Light, AL-WAYS


Everything I needed to know, I learned from Merlot!

Everything I needed to know, I learned from Merlot!

Now, before you think that I have a drinking problem, Merlot is a beautiful black soft silky smooth female cat and not a bottle of great tasting red wine. We adopted each other a few months ago and I knew at the time that she would have a big impact on my life. It had been over 2 decades since I had shared my life with a feline personality and it has admittedly taken me a few weeks to learn and re-familiarise myself with some of their amazing and unique peculiarities. For indeed, they are a personality – as any cat lover will tell you.  Cats are after all, renowned for their particularities. And yes, either you love them or you don’t.

So what has Merlot taught me.

1. Cats are not dogs

Well, yes I may be stating the obvious here, however, there is quite a distinctive difference. After all, the generalism is that dogs are givers and cats are receivers. So yes, I do get a bit peeved when I feel like a cuddle session and well, it is just not on Miss Merlot’s agenda. Admittedly, she is really patient with the crazy lady (that’s me by the way :-}) who picks her up far more than necessary for cuddles.  Her body language is quite distinctive though about whether she is up for a cuddle session or not. Trying to cuddle a squirming and clawing bundle of fur is a challenge in itself.

Lesson: Everyone is unique and different

2. Just sleep until something really interesting comes along

Now Merlot is quite a house cat and she does love company. She is thrilled when I get visitors, so that she gets to see faces other than my own. Although when they arrive she does this bizarre disappearing act, only to appear ten minutes later with the air of just having stepped out of a limousine. Don’t you just love how cats can pull that off?

Used to having male cats earlier in life, who were more out of the house than in, Merlot hangs around a lot. And what does she do – well sleeps of course. I am amazed at how she will just settle down anywhere – along a wall, in the middle of the floor, on top of a cupboard, behind a curtain – and just sleep. The sleeping positions are a wonder to behold – from fully extended in a stretch, relaxingly contorted in some corner, hiding in the closet, to curling up in a seemingly impossible tight ball. Of course, all this relaxed lethargy vanishes within seconds when something esteemed interesting happens and she is off in a flash. No warm up required there.

Lesson: Rest is important and there is very little in life that is actually worth losing sleep over. So relax!

3. Be Self-ish

Cats are renowned for their particular presence and Merlot is no exception.  She is the centre of the Universe, at least her own and she just expects everyone else to know this. She does not doubt herself or second-guess herself or do any profound soul searching. Just just is. If she’s in a grumpy mood, she’s grumpy. If she wants some quite time, she will find a quite spot. If she wants to eat, she will find food or make sure that her food provider (that’s me usually ;-}) takes care of things. When she wants to cuddle, she comes to cuddle.

I just get such pleasure from observing her and she has certainly contributed to me relaxing more and just going with the flow.

In our society, we have been brainwashed into thinking that doing what we truly feel like doing, is being selfish and that this is a bad thing. I watch Merlot and am filled with admiration at just how truly being selfish actually uncomplicates things and allows others to be themselves. That’s of course if one can get past the judgments and conditioning and takes responsibility for one’s behaviour and attitude.

Lesson: Be you and change the world.

4. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Yes, Merlot does get up to cat things – like sharpening her claws on my mattress base and on my beautiful carpets – in spite of the fact that she has a few trees outside and her tree inside on which to practise this. She will jump up to places that are not where I wish to find her and has turned that soft paw come sharp clawed weapon on me, just because she felt it was appropriate without even offering an explanation, I might add. So yes, I have growled at her (not like a dog though, at least not yet) and she has taken off at high speed, just because she can.

What I love about her – she doesn’t hold a grudge. Now I can hear you males out there sighing in understanding and longing, because well let’s face it that’s what females do – and they are often quite good at it, n’est pas? Well, as a female myself, I can vouch for the weightiness of holding and bearing grudges. There comes a point where it does just get all so heavy. So Merlot is like a breath of fresh air, as she will often turn up a few minutes later and be so totally over it. Her only concern – what’s next. It’s truly delightfully liberating.

Lesson: Don’t sulk and hold a grudge. Life is too short.

5. The healing power of touch

Since having Merlot in my life, my awareness of what this means has taken on a new and whole different dimension. I have always loved the contact of touch – probably why I so enjoy giving massage. There is a beauty to the moments though, when Merlot comes for her cuddle session. When listening to Dee Wallace’s I Am talks, she has often used the example of thinking of one’s child or pet, to reconnect us with a sense of total gratitude. I really get this when I cuddle Merlot. It is as if we melt into each other and I feel my heart chakra fill up and overflow. And Merlot just receives and in her receiving, she allows and honours my gifting to her. These are moments of pure unconditional being.

There is something so soothing, comforting and grace-filled that occurs when I touch her beautiful soft silky fur. When I touch her, I am touched and moved within my Being.

Lesson: Giving (or gifting) is receiving and receiving is giving

6. Communication is beyond words

Merlot, is a real talker. She will miaow for this and that and sometimes just for nothing really. Whilst sometimes, I get what she is saying, there are moments where, well, she is just expressing herself. She will just look at me with those big green eyes of her’s, with such intensity, that I know she is sharing something big. Of course, most of the time, I have no idea what she is going on about.  But, is it really so important that I understand her, or is it more important just to listen to her? After all, are cat’s that much different to people, in that we sometimes just desire to share something with another?

And then of course there is the body language. Well, I find Merlot has the most fascinating tail. It really is like a receptor. And it is seldom still. I think with her, the code book for what tail movement actually mean according to humans can be thrown out the window. She has a tail language all of her own and she changes it as the days goes along. Even sometimes when asleep, the tip of the tail is still moving. Perhaps she was a dog in a past life? MMMMmmmmhhhhhh.

Lesson: Communicate in your own unique way and just know that those who are looking for what you have to say, will hear. People do truly hear what they want to. Mia culpa.

7. I Am that I Am

All animals are beautiful and grace us with their particular uniqueness. However, I do believe that cats personify this so wonderfully for us humans. It is no wonder that the ancient Egyptians worshipped them as gods, for their is something very regal in their bearing is there not? Even when they are acting like crazy, hissing, spitting, furballs of clawed energy. I think cats just do everything with flair. They act like the world revovles around them and so of course it does. They are such great examples of creating your reality and then know what you asked for is done.

I know that for me, Merlot has taught me so much already and continues to contribute to my life everyday. She is often a reflector of me and when I look at her, I can read what kind of vibration I am giving off. She provides me with companionship simply by being around and with her presence.

Lesson: I Am Perfect just the way I Am and so is everybody else

8. Energy follows energy

Merlot will often keep to herself until I am busy with a client and giving a healing session. She is amazing to watch. She usually comes in and depending on the person, will stay for verying length of time. She will usually always jump up on the table, if the client is OK with this of course. She seems to sense this though and will not come to the clients who are not willing to receive.

The healing abilities of animals have been foretold since forever. Merlot just is healing. She follows the energy, gives and receives. There is no ego involved and no mulling over what it is to be a healer. She comes in, contributes, receives and off she goes. I have felt and seen how human bodies experience healing because of her simple presence. She just IS 100% Being. It is most beautiful to behold.

Lesson:  Follow the energy. Energy never lies

I could go on and on, but this is a blog site, not a book. So I will stop here for now. I know that through this blog, beautiful Merlot will be contributing to you too. She is a crazy cat and I am a crazy lady, so we make a fine pair. 🙂 For however long she chooses to be with me, I rejoice and am honoured and blessed.

With gratitude for all the amazing pets and animals out there that contribute to us and the planet. Continue to take care of each other. How did we get so lucky?

To you all, sending Light and Love.


Founder and Well-Being Facilitator at BE YU Well-Being