by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Awareness, Behaviour, Consciousness, Health, I Am, Joy, Language, Love, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Personal Development, Relationship, Self-Worth, Uncategorized, Valentine's Day, Value, Well-Being |
Many people seem to believe that the greatest gift of love to another, is to offer their love. Whilst this is indeed a precious gesture, is this really true or unconditional love?
What if,this is like offering a tool to someone that frankly they have no use for? Even though they appreciate the gesture. What if the highest intent when loving someone, is to love them in the way they need to be loved? Asking them what tool they require and if it will be useful to them. I always remember Louise Hay’s question, “how can I love you more today?”. So often I observe people in their talking about relationships saying that they want someone who will do this and that with them and to share in their interests. When they meet up for their first date, so many just talk about themselves. But what about the other person? What about what interests them?
In the methodology of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) this is a very important premise. Understanding the language of the other. If communication is to be successful, then it is imperative to use the words that make sense to the person being communicated with. This seems to make so much sense, yet many people experience difficult communication which leads to misunderstanding due to not checking in with the other person, firstly that they have understood. Have you ever experienced or overheard a conversation where you say one thing, the other person says another, there is disagreement, only to later find out that you meant the same thing? This is an example of where people with different cognitive modalities are talking, but unwittingly at each other rather than with each other. It is about choosing the form of words that suit the mental map of the other party. For example, for people who collect data visually, certain words like imagine or questions like ‘can you see?’ make the conversation flow. So for people who are auditive or kinesthetic it would certainly facilitate things to use words that ‘speak’ to them. I believe it is similar when it comes to emotional relationships, which are forms of conversation.
If people are to experience truly fulfilling, satisfying and loving relationship, where there is a vulnerable intimacy possible, I believe we must change our expectations of relationship. Especially the main one – our relationship with ourselves. We have to face our own demons or shadow selves and love them into simply being – beyond judgment – so that the shadow can expand into the light. Having experienced seriously dis-functional relationships, I chose to really sit down and take a long hard look at what kept on showing up. And then taking ownership. Standing in my responsibility as a Creator and embracing it all – the good, the bad and the ugly. For after all, it is who I am. And I choose to be in love with whatever that is and looks like.
Yes of course there is always space for expansion, however there is a huge difference when this comes from a place of judgment – or polarity reality – rather than from a space of ‘now what amazing adventure would I like to create, be, have, experience and generate next?”. Then I can come from a place and space of true being that lends a sense of communion to all relating. Then I can stand In Love and lose nothing of myself when loving another as they require it. When the ego falls away it becomes easy to do, because it is no longer about ‘how I will love you” and rather ‘let me explore the many ways to love and love you differently’.
The more I travel this road of Knowing Myself the more I understand the importance of what truly loving oneself first, means for me. It is only then that there is no requirement to be loved by another, because one already is In Love. Then what flows forth when together with another is a dance of joy and participation and of expansion and of experiencing something new each day. There is already a sense of wholeness that requires simple self-expression rather than validation from and by another. When the “I” in the relationship becomes the ‘We’ of the Relationship – The Oneness. The real love question therefore in my opinion, is in learning to speak the the language of the Beloved – the true language (and message) of love.And it starts with self-love and is perpetuated from there.
May you Be In Love!
In Light
Trilby
Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.
Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Alchemy Assessment if you are ready for go from zero to hero now!
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by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Abundance, Awareness, Behaviour, Challenge, Choice, Consciousness, Freedom, Health, Love, Take action, Valentine's Day |
Working from home I don’t often use my car these days. Which makes the spiders happy because they get to think that they can take over. Until I use the car again. Which happened earlier this week.
It was a hot day and so hopping in the car, I attempted to open the window on the passenger side as it gives better ventilation without me getting blown away. Nothing happened. I pushed the button again. Still nothing. Oh no, it’s broken! I had a quick mental flashback to the days when cars still had window handles that you could use to wind down the windows manually.
Thoughts of having to have the window repaired also flashed through my mind as I wondered where the money for this unforeseen expense would come from? But, I was driving and so concentrated on taking the sharp bends in the road ahead. Several miles further on, I suddenly thought of the window again. Of course I had to check again if it opened, as you do sometimes – just to be sure. So I pushed the same button once again. Still nothing! Then I noticed the other button next to the window one – a little squarish button that I rarely used as I am the sole occupant of my car. ‘Push that’ my little voice said. So I did and then tried again. This time the window opened. It wasn’t broken. It had simply been locked!
I am sharing this story because I love how seemingly unrelated events can suddenly bring clarity in other areas of Life – all at the push of a button. It was as if a floodgate of awareness had opened up across my life to connect the dots of what was really going on at a subconscious level. Reflecting on the incident and the thoughts that had crossed my mind, I realized how often I had believed something wasn’t working – with me, my life, my business, my relationships, my money and my body. How often does that happen – to look at things from the perspective of them being broken? And yes even when things are actually broken, experience has shown me that there is always a solution or something new that presents itself.
My thoughts went on as to how these decisions and conclusion around issues and situations that show up in our lives, create interruption in the flow of energy. The energy becomes locked into this loop of the ‘broken’ belief! Energy loves to flow and is indestructible so it can never be broken. It can however become locked into a pattern of cause and effect that will repeat itself until the right release switch is pushed. And then it’s off again – flowing into expansion!
So what locks the energy in? Energy becomes locked into a particular pattern through attachment to a specific vibrational frequency. Energy responds to awareness and so if awareness is used to focus on particular aspects, then more and more energy will flow towards those aspects. Until such a time as a different button is pushed to release the form that has become attached to the energy.
The analogy of the car window helped make me aware that in fact nothing in my life was broken, only locked in by my conscious and unconscious choice of thoughts, feelings and emotions and behaviours. To open up the flow of energy again, all that was required was to unlock my thinking and choose something different. Change can happen at the push of a button. It has to be the right button though and you have to choose to give it a go. Nothing in Life is ever broken – even though it may appear so on the surface. Life is simply waiting and asking to be unlocked so that it can flow into something else – something different, something new and sometimes just a better version of the same.
It’s not broken. It’s just sometimes locked. And the key to unlocking Life is about you and me co-creating our human Being through choosing consciousness and love. You just have to find the right button and give it a push. It’s the same for your heart. It’s not broken, it’s just locked. Perhaps it’s time to open it up to new ways of loving. What do you say?
In Light, Love and Appreciation.
Trilby
Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.
Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Alchemy Assessment if you are ready for go from zero to hero now!
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by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Authentic, Awareness, Behaviour, Books, Choice, Consciousness, Freedom, Health, Joy, Love, Magic, Personal Development, Question, Self-Worth, Success, Take action, Thrive, Uncategorized, Value, Well-Being |
The terrorist events back in 2015 in Paris shook many of us to the core and raised a new level of awareness around war and peace. It has shaken our sense of security, however flimsy that may actually be and awoken in us the fear that we are no longer safe. Whilst the recent incidents in Paris most certainly got the Western world’s attention, it has of course raised issues as well about all the other events of mass suffering that are going on and that get little media focus. It has also made the levels of fear skyrocket which is the motive of anyone who uses force and brutality. And for the most part it worked. Or did it?
In the moment perhaps, but there is something new being born, apparent on social networking and beyond the main medias reach. There is a movement of trust and love and a willingness to take accountability showing up. And so whilst many are indeed experiencing fear, which is a legitimate emotion, there also is an awareness that it is now time to make a choice. The new age is now today and I feel we are being shown quite clearly that the choices we make from this moment on, are of pivotal importance. It’s a matter of trust. More to the point however, is trust in who or what and can anything be trusted at all in these uncertain times?
I see a new thought field around love gathering momentum and thank goodness many more people appear to be responding with love rather than reacting in fear. And yet this upsurge of destructive action indicates that for many love is still an illusive state of being, despite this new unfolding of a very strong desire and demand to move away from violence as means of accomplishing anything of value and sustainable.
What is also in question here is, who is responsible? We blame society, but we are society. And so it really is time to stop and take a long hard look at our daily actions. For the most part, most people agree that all you need is love, as the Beatles sang. Yet what is visible in the external world and a reflected representation of the underlying inner and subconscious world, within us, is that there is not that much love. As more Light is brought in, the Shadows will also show up in stark contrast and this is what is occurring. I myself have desired to be more loving and yes loved and yet this simple desire on its own has not proven easy to attain. This, in spite of and despite my choosing to love more. Beginning with myself. It is in my journey of falling in love with myself again, that I uncovered what for me is the missing link, that will bind the intention to the behaviour and experience. A matter of trust!
In my exploration of my shadow-self, I uncovered a side to what is supposedly ‘love’ that is nasty, controlling, selfish, disempowering and terribly confusing. Listen to many of the love songs on the radio today and the message they give. Love always seems to be unrequited. What’s with that? There must be something missing! And whilst love does seem to be all we need, the current definition and implicit meanings within this noun and verb are creating terrible suffering and misguided information. The word ‘love’ has been so misused and abused that people find themselves running after this state often only to crash down with terrible disappointment and harm. How many times have you been told that it’s for your own good and because you are loved, when in fact it was just another step in applying a notion that belongs to someone else. Love is so tangled up in social and religious and cultural beliefs that it has been strangled almost to death. If love is truly to be what saves us, then it is in desperate need of an overhaul. Or we need a new way to access it’s potential.
Now don’t get me wrong. I believe very much in love and yes I am a romantic. However, I am no longer caught up in the entrainment that is behind the general definition and use of this word in so many cases. If love was as simple as that, then how come it is such a struggle for so many? In my experience, true love requires a safe place in which it can truly unfold and blossom. For love to sprout in our hearts and mind, requires vulnerability beyond the daily demands of the ego that is rooted in belief systems that do not always serve our personal values. For love to truly become visible in my daily experience, something that I could feel in every fibre of my being, I first had to choose to trust myself. Without trusting in me, my life lay around me in tatters and no matter how much I wanted to build something loving, the foundations were shaky and so always crumbled. Trust is the foundation on which love stands. Your trust for yourself, no one else. Trust is when you choose to follow your own inner voice no matter what, because it’s Knowing cannot be denied anymore.
So much of the misunderstanding around love I believe is because it is like a carrot that has been dangled in front of our noses for centuries. Yet it is seldom achievable by the masses. For me the missing link is a matter of trust. Without trust in yourself it is difficult to trust in life, because life will reflect back to you, all the places you distrust yourself and there is nowhere for love to plant its roots. To open your heart so wide that you are totally exposed and yet totally whole, takes trust. As long as self-trust is missing, true love will continue to slip through our fingers. Always just out of reach. Like learning to run before you can walk. Trust is about consciously choosing to know and continue to choose to know that you are always safe, that life is but a dream and that love is a many splendid thing. Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks.
Life has shown me that before I can truly embrace my Greatness, I have to trust in myself. And love, happiness, joy, well-being are all the fruits of this choice to listen to those whispers of my Heart’s Knowing. Trust for me is my connection to knowing that I too am a part of All That Is and that runs through everything. True Love is unconditional and flows through everything, yet trust is the key to receiving. When you are missing this key, it is difficult to receive because there is no trust. No trust in yourself, that you are Divine enough to know and significant enough to receive. Therefore true love continues to wait patiently and unconditionally until you do. It’s a matter of trust!
This is a vast and complex topic and of course you will have your own points of view. I just feel it is time to address what I see is going on. Not just for myself but with the many clients I work with. The issue always comes down to self-trust. This is just one aspect and one possibility though. One way that turned my life around and continues to do so. This understanding of trust – Through Receiving Unconditionally Spirit Talks – came to me whilst writing my book ‘A-Ha Moments – Inspirational Quotes to Shift Your Thinking’. If you enjoyed this blog and the ideas explored here and wish to have your own copy, please go here – Books.
I really feel that we are all being called. It is time now to choose either love or fear. It begins with you, because you are the co-creator and everything you choose to think, feel, have, do, create and generate is a creative force that stems from within you. It is an invitation to look deep within your shadows because that is where the real you is hiding, buried under mountains of judgment. Hiding with all your potential. Trust in yourself. And when you go wrong, then choose to trust in yourself again. Trusting in you is perhaps the most important choice you can ever make if you truly wish to fully receive the experience of unconditional love.
Sending Light to everyone. Holding a vision that you choose to trust yourself. Please love yourself so much that it will never ever be possible to harm yourself or another. The way in which you trust yourself matters much more than you perhaps know.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be in trust.
In Light and Appreciation.
Trilby
Trilby Johnson is an Emotional Breakthrough Mentor, Author and Speaker whose clients hire her to go from emotional zero to emotional hero, as they heal, alleviate stress and cultivate emotional freedom in their lives, relationships, finances, emotions, health and mindset. She shares her knowledge of how to create inner harmony and outer balance with those seeking to deepen their self-knowing and expand their consciousness.
Contact Trilby for a Breakthrough Alchemy Assessment if you are ready for go from zero to hero now!
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by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Abundance, Authentic, Awareness, Beauty, Behaviour, Body, Challenge, Choice, Freedom, Health |
I am currently enjoying my vacation in Switzerland, my former home for over two decades, before I moved to New Zealand. That was almost eight year’s ago. Little did I know at the time that these would be the most intensely challenging years of my life. They have also been the most enriching.
I was excited to book this trip, although my feelings were quite neutral in many ways and even long before the departure I began to observe changes to the agenda. I love to travel and part of the adventure of travel for me is this letting go of what shows up and how. Any one who travels a lot knows how flimsy many travel plans can be and so flexibility and patience is a recommended mind-set.
As my vacation has unfolded, so too have a lot of unexpected surprises. Some pleasant and others not so much, but necessary. When one returns to meet family and friends that have been absent for a long time, it is an amazing opportunity to let go and to receive something new and more.
Sometimes, letting go means saying goodbye to age-old beliefs that have become ingrained and that are no longer suited to sustain anything of value. Sometimes, letting go means dropping old experiences of the way things were and being open to new experiences and connection.
When we step out of the habitual ritual and rut that becomes in so many ways our daily lives, we are somehow offered another opportunity to see things through new eyes.
I have found within myself the courage to say NO no matter what, because I trust myself and to open my heart to new acquaintances because I trust my capacity to love myself and that this is now reflected back to me.
Letting go is imperative to make space to receive something else and yes different. I find myself wondering what made me hold on for so long? Beliefs and entrainment of who and what I am, that quite frankly no longer serve any one, especially me. There is such a sweet release in finally stepping out into the sunshine knowing from within that everything really is simple and beautiful.
All those year’s of intense struggle and self-searching and getting to the core of who I am and who I am not have been worth every step. What has been released has been done so with love and peace and what is being received is joyous and expansive.
Perhaps the reason so many of us resist change is indeed because we don’t realize that we have to let go to receive. We have been brainwashed to give give give, not being informed that for the wheel to come full circle there has to be receiving.
Those who have crossed the desert know that it is a place of both great struggle and yet of great beauty to. Either way, there is no way that you cross it or come out of it the same person.
There is a peaceful simplicity and completion in letting go to receive. And it feels wholesome and freeing.
Happy Spring to those in the Southern Hemisphere as you prepare for new beginnings. Happy Autumn to those in the Norther Hemisphere as you prepare to gather your harvest of richness. Blessings to you all. Life is a wonderful adventure!
In Light.
Trilby
p.s. I have created a closed facebook group called The Connective – set up to discuss how to marry the metaphysical aspects into every day life in a way that is practical and effective. Come and join here – https://www.facebook.com/groups/theconnectivegroup/
p.s.s. One of the methods that has helped me get through this losing my mind phase and helped me cope with this transition, is breathing. Opt-in here to find out how to make it possible to Detox, Destress and Relax in under 10 seconds
p.s.s.s If you feel like you have hit a wall, keep butting your head up against the ceiling and have frankly just given up hope when it comes to life, money, health, love and personal self-expression, then I can assist you. I’ve been there and got myself out of that dark hole of self-hatred and feeling a total failure and unlovable. Apply today for your complimentary 30 minute LET’S TALK session. Your life is worth talking about!
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Trilby D. Johnson is an TRANSFORMATIONAL Author and BODY-BRAIN REFORMER WHOSE message of self-actualization, embodiment and self-love invites people from around the world to embrace their Sovereign Authenticity as they release chronic SYMPTOMS around money, health and love. She provides tools and skills for people to live a life free of pain, suffering, sadness and self-limiting beliefs and makes living A SPIRITUAL LIFE practical AND SUCCESSFUL.
Find out more about CONNECTING THE DOTS TO WHO YOU TRULY ARE – https://breakthroughsavvy.com
©Trilby D. Johnson 2015. If you do share any part of this article, please quote ME AS the author and reference this blog at http://www.connectiveharmony.com – Thank you.
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by Breakthrough Savvy - Trilby Johnson | Abundance, Authentic, Awareness, Behaviour, Body, Brain, Breathing, Challenge, Choice, Consciousness, Freedom, Health, Holistic, I Am, Language, Neuroplasticity, Quantum Healing |
Have you felt like you were losing your mind over the last several weeks? This period leading up to the blue moon transition in July 2015 has proven to be a very challenging time in a very unique and particular way for so many of us. Listening and seeing all that is going on around, things certainly appear to be chaotic to say the least. The last several weeks I have personally found very challenging and these new energies are certainly keeping me guessing.
Living in New Zealand, on the South Island, I am reminded of our forefathers from all over the world. Those first brave voyagers who set out without really knowing what they would find, yet driven by a fire in their heart that simply would not be quietened. After months at sea, which was perilous enough, they would arrive in a new and different place, to face unknown territory, fauna and flora and native inhabitants. Often driving the windy road through thick undergrowth and steep mountains, I am struck by how modern roadways are taken for granted. Without these constructed and maintained pathways, traveling even a small distance would be a very different experience.
Yet, there is definitely a Spirit of Pioneer in the air. Situations just seem even more topsy-turvy than usual and whilst I consider myself well equipped to steer these currents, I have been thrown quite some unexpected and totally unfamiliar and highly uncomfortable curve balls of late. It seems the frequencies have ultra-increased and there have been moments when I have felt literally as if I have been losing my mind. As someone who enjoys my solitude, even this was discomforting to say the least. What the heck?
The Observer, observes all of this happening and yes, the mind is becoming lost. The dominant mental energy is now becoming more aligned in compliment to the heart energy and this is creating quite a bit of movement and disruption as the process plays itself out. So yes the mind is being loosened and being lost and like those early pioneers, many of us are going where no human has consciously gone before, at least not at the accelerated speed at which it is being done now. And so yes, feeling overloaded is the correct term for what is happening. And No, it doesn’t feel very comfortable at all.
It is very important to stay focused on your bigger picture. Stay positive, even through the negative moments. Find the right people to support you. This is an existential experience and the mind is shrieking in resistance as it knows its days of total power are numbered. If your family and friends are unable to support you, ensure that you are getting quality solo-time if and when required. As the mental takes a back seat, it is important to honour the unfolding of the new, even though the means of understanding it are now totally changed. Tap into your Pioneer Spirit and whilst things may be serious, there is definitely Light on the horizon. Remember that to get to your destination and to handle those detours, keep focused on what it is you want and ensure that you are connecting to the resources within that fuel your Pioneer Spirit. (There was one tool and action I did use over these last few weeks to keep me in the sane as much as possible. Check out my p.s.s. at the end of this article, to find out more and get this tool for yourself!)
When speaking with my healing partner earlier this week, I was reminded that a leader does not have followers. That is not the purpose of a leader in this new energy world. A leader is to set a path and go ahead so that others may follow if they choose. The pioneers of old knew that they were going ahead of everyone. They cleared the way in a manner of speaking. I feel we are being asked to lead the way with our Pioneer Spirit and in turn allow that Pioneer Spirit to lead us to unfamiliar greener pastures. It is time to leave the Known for the Unknown and Trust that all is well in all of Creation.
Like a beautiful butterfly, a complete overhaul is taking place. The caterpillar must transform into another life-form to experience what it is like to fly. I am a transition in transition. These are exciting times to be alive.
Be Bold. Be Courageous. Be Love. Be Safe. Be Your SELF.
In Light.
Trilby
p.s. I have created a closed facebook group called The Connective – set up to discuss how to marry the metaphysical aspects into every day life in a way that is practical and effective. Come and join here – https://www.facebook.com/groups/theconnectivegroup/
p.s.s. One of the methods that has helped me get through this losing my mind phase and helped me cope with this transition, is breathing. Opt-in here to find out how to make it possible to Detox, Destress and Relax in under 10 seconds
p.s.s.s If you feel like you have hit a wall, keep butting your head up against the ceiling and have frankly just given up hope when it comes to life, money, health or love, then I can help you. I’ve been there and got myself out of that dark hole of self-hatred and feeling a total failure and unlovable. Apply today for your complimentary 30 minute LET’S TALK session. Your life really is worth talking about, don’t you think?
Trilby D. Johnson is an TRANSFORMATIONAL Author and BODY-BRAIN REFORMER WHOSE message of self-actualization, embodiment and self-love invites people from around the world to embrace their Sovereign Authenticity as they release chronic SYMPTOMS around money, health and love. She provides tools and skills for people to live a life free of pain, suffering, sadness and self-limiting beliefs and makes living A SPIRITUAL LIFE practical AND SUCCESSFUL.
Find out more about CONNECTING THE DOTS TO WHO YOU TRULY ARE – https://breakthroughsavvy.com
©Trilby D. Johnson 2015. If you do share any part of this article, please quote the author and reference this blog at http://www.connectiveharmony.com – Thank you.
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